climbergirl Posted March 22, 2007 Posted March 22, 2007 Brief synopsis....my ex and I generally have a good relationship. 3 year old daughter, and we have a great parenting relationship. Broken up for over 2 years. but this guy is driving me up the wall. We help each other out on a personal level quite frequently,but this is what's getting to me. Example; I helped him out yesterday for a climbing shoot, he was grateful/happy and bought me a bottle of wine and lunch (with daughter). Very relaxed, talked easily, joked about stupid **** from the past. All's good. We've done this before (holidays, lunches, shopping, movies (all with our daugher btw) with the same outcome (over and over) as below. Next day. Cold. Demeanor/attitude/conversation. I guess more quiet than cold. But drastic! After a year of this up/down I think it's possible that he acts that way because he doesn't want me to have the wrong impression. The thing is, I like having a good relationship with the father of my child, but am not looking for a restart of a relationship with him. As I see it, it would totally f*ck things up. Or maybe we have to stop these outings/favors for each other? I'm leaning towards saying, "look, relax, I just like things the way they are." We correspond on (pretty much) a daily basis and this drastic change of behavior is getting to me much like anyone else doing this would. Any input? I don't want to insult him or rock the boat. WTF??
roadwarrior Posted March 22, 2007 Posted March 22, 2007 If you get along maybe it has nothing to do with you at all. My exwife acted the same way. One day friendly next day bitching and moaning about the color of the sky. I hated walking in that door. Turns out she was depressed and got on meds.
Author climbergirl Posted March 22, 2007 Author Posted March 22, 2007 Well, he's definately moody and that's always been apparent. I'm glad I don't have to live w/that on a day to day basis. But that's his personality, I don't think he's depressed. Possibly he's a complete ass the next day because he already got me to help him out. He also may be pissed because a week or so ago he asked to borrow money and I said No. He already owes me and I'm firm in not loaning more. It's just that the last couple days he's been above and beyond rude-and I'm trying to figure it out. I don't know if I should confront him or let it go.
Author climbergirl Posted March 23, 2007 Author Posted March 23, 2007 I'm going to use this as a reminder to not jump to conclusions and that calm communication is key. Because, I now feel like the ass. Long story, but he was stressed because I got blasted for helping him out. He'd even took further action to prevent that from happening again. He does something nice and I'm thinking the worst. I feel like a complete idiot. I know confusing to anyone reading this. But I want this up so I can look at it before my imagination runs with stupid conclusions.
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