laRubiaBonita Posted March 21, 2007 Posted March 21, 2007 so i have a great group of friends..... probably about 15 of us, give or take, with a strong social core of about 8-10. i have known all these people for over 6 years, and we usually hang out at least once a week. well, a few months back, me and C start hanging out at his place. normally we all hang out at W's house, but since she was out of town, we just hung out at his place. all was cool, i have probably been over 4-5 times since. but now, he texts me every day, when we do hang out, he'll want to buy me dinner, even though i offer to pay (cause we are friends).... we are going to a party together this weekend.... the 60's themed party i have mentioned before.... he will be hugh hefner, i will be a classic playboy bunny..... i do not really respond to his texts... which have a sexual undertone- but at the same time i usually infer sexual things too.... i just do not feel it is innocent anymore. what do i do? tell him i really like him as a friend, so quit f**king it up?
Reckless Posted March 21, 2007 Posted March 21, 2007 Or consider him. If it's really "no deal" then you should probably stop playing the bunny girl to his hugh heifer if you see what I mean. Unless everyone in your group is 87 and all attached it was bound to happen that someone 'likes' someone else , if you're sure its NO, it would be kind to stonewall the sexuall undertones, pull back on the one-on-one link-ups and see if he gets the message ... You can't flirt and have your friendship cake at the same time; Mars-Venus law of frienship I'm afraid. R
Author laRubiaBonita Posted March 21, 2007 Author Posted March 21, 2007 oh..... i did forget to mention that i am the youngest in the group by 15-20 years. so he is easily 15 years my senior. and we are a very platonic group... .maybe i am reading too much into it? the bunny to the hefner.... it is a costume, come on!
Kamille Posted March 21, 2007 Posted March 21, 2007 It is not just a costume... It's a costume that links the two of you together precisely on the topic of sexyness and sexuality. Come on, he's a guy! Who you think has a thing for you! Of course he's going to read something more then just costume into it. The point of costumes is to live out fantasies. And this will likely be a very exciting one for him. Or so works my understanding of male sexuality.
Road Rage Posted March 21, 2007 Posted March 21, 2007 laRubiaBonita If I understand this correctly just the two of you have hung out at his place several times. That is enough right there for a guy to think that he is on to something. 15 years age difference is generally doable after 30 or so. Especially in a guy`s mind:D Of course he is interested in you. It is just the way a guy is wired. Just don`t do the flirty texts, hanging out one on one and anything else that suggests interest. Going to a party as HH and a bunny? Holy Toledo, this guy probably thinks he` fixing to get laid:laugh:
Yamaha Posted March 21, 2007 Posted March 21, 2007 You can't flirt and have your friendship cake at the same time; Mars-Venus law of friendship I'm afraid. Just the way life is, I'm afraid. Yes, he likes you and you have no interest in him ( in that way ). You are just going to have to tone down the flirting and hanging out and let his crush pass. Feelings always screws things up!!!!
Magnatolia Posted April 15, 2007 Posted April 15, 2007 Sorry but he's not the only one f*king things up. He's being flirty, you're being flirty - if he is interested, there's a good chance that he thinks 'you're' interested because you're flirting back. And yes, the costumes also have an underlying sexual them as someone mentioned. Did you ever watch the movie My Boss's Daughter? There's a scene where the girl is being 'sexual/flirty' with a guy because someone told her he was gay, so she figured it was no big deal until she realised he wasn't gay! It might mean nothing to you, but you can't assume it means nothing to him. Just tell him. Be upfront and let him know that the texts are a bit much.
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