Slapshot2286 Posted March 20, 2007 Posted March 20, 2007 After almost four years, my girlfriend and I have broken up. I've cheated on her. I think she might have cheated on me too. No, she has. I've been seeing another girl now, and I really like her. But the thing is, I feel this terrible knot in my chest. I care about my ex so incredibly much, its hard to function. I know I've hurt her, and it kills me. When we talk now, I feel more in love with her than when we were together. Is this normal? Is it just regret, or have I made the wrong decision? I felt like it wasn't right when I was in the relationship, but now, even with this new girl, I feel like its wrong to be without her! I'm so confused...
wlminfla Posted March 20, 2007 Posted March 20, 2007 That's definitely a difficult decision... You're probably feeling the knots because of the guilt from cheating and breaking up...I know I've been there. It's a terrible terrible feeling. But the truth of the matter is is that it's perfectly normal to feel regret and remorse and to have that "I don't know what I had till I lost it" mentality at this point. HOWEVER, I don't think that getting back together at this point is even possible and here's why. Everytime you look at her, you'll think of her cheating with another guy. Everytime she sees you, she'll think of the hurt as well. THERE IS A POSSIBILITY FOR RECONCILIATION SOMEDAY, but healing has to happen first and that means to take some time for yourself and allow yourself to grow, mature, and learn from all of this so that you can be a better person either for her or for someone else. Hang in there!
noxnoctisangela Posted March 20, 2007 Posted March 20, 2007 I agree with wlminfla on this... but also what about the other girl you have been seeing...is it really fair to string her along if you are still in love with your ex or is she just a rebound girl? i would make sure you are on the same level with this girl now so more feelings dont get hurt.
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