Pyro Posted March 21, 2007 Posted March 21, 2007 Golly, I hope you did not take this as a come-on! I was just sayin'....complimentin'.... Anyhow, LS would not be so much fun of we all didn't have that Evil side! You are jumping to conclusions. All I said was thanks for the compliment. I was just complimenting you in return, thats all.
boshemia Posted March 21, 2007 Posted March 21, 2007 Why? They're so much work, it takes so much effort to open up to somebody, to get to know them for who they are, to compromise and make sacrifices... and none of it is ever guaranteed to be returned to you. What's the point of even looking for a needle in a stack of hay, when most of the people here say that we should be whole and complete by ourselves in the first place, that we shouldn't be needing anybody to be happy anyways. So why bother trying if all we need to be happy is ourselves? Why bother making sacrifices for nothing? Life would be much easier if we could avoid taking risks, but it wouldn't be very fulfilling. It's not easy letting down your walls and taking the chance that you will be rejected, but we keep doing it. I'm not a gambler, I don't buy lottery tickets very often, and when we go to Vegas I would rather see the sights than waste my money in a casino. I don't have the kind of money to feel comfortable just throwing it away with no guarantee of return. I can't pay my bills as it is, how can I risk losing something I don't really have in the first place? It's true that we are supposed to be whole and complete by ourselves, nobody has the power to "make" us happy. We either are or we aren't. Loving yourself is a lot like becoming financially stable, Loving another is a gamble. Once you love yourself you are able to love someone else without the fear of losing everything you have. There is a payoff in relationships, in finding a companion to share your life with. It's more than having someone to share the good times with, and support you during the bad. It's having someone who knows you and loves you just as you are. When you can say "Man, I really messed up" and having them standing beside you smiling saying "Yeah, but you did a really good job at it" I have had pretty bad luck with romantic relationships, but I have been blessed with more than a few friends in this life. People who care about me, who stand beside me, they let me cry on their shoulders or kick me in the butt when I need them too. Sometimes when things get tough, it's really hard to remember why I love myself. They are always there with a list of reasons why I deserve to be loved, and that is an amazing feeling. If I lose them I am really losing nothing of myself, life would go on... but having them in my life just makes me more me...
polywog Posted March 21, 2007 Posted March 21, 2007 Great post, Boshemia! You summed it up, in my opinion!
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