Guest Posted March 20, 2007 Posted March 20, 2007 In my past relationship (17yrs) he was a taker and gave very little. I wanted to be a good spouse by taking care of my man. In the last 4 yrs of the relationship I clued in that it was very one sided. I think I created that by doing to much for him. I am now in a new relationship of eight months and this man has been very giving in every aspect..intimacy..love..you name it. Lately I have been evaluating how I treat him..and I came to the conclusion that I should be a bit more giving. I think I was holding back and enjoying the attention he was showing me..soaking it up if you will. So for the past few weeks I have been taking care of him by giving him massages after work, cooking for him.. here and there, suprising him with little gifts..etc. It's not like I've never done these things for him..it's just I wasn't doing them often enough in my opinion. I've always been there all along listening to all his problems and he shows appreaciation for that. My worry now is falling back into giving and not receiving. Ever since I started taking more care of him..he has slowed down on taking care of me. Now that's normal I suppose (since I received so much attention at first) and fine with me...BUT..how do I make sure It stays balanced. Do I back off with doing to much for him? I want to do the stuff...I enjoy taking care of people to a fault..but I don't want him to become lazy and take advantage of me. So how do you keep a balance when it comes to giving and taking? Thanks
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