missy86 Posted March 20, 2007 Posted March 20, 2007 Hi everyone, I'm new here and believe this is the perfect place for me to air my thoughts on a predicament i'm currently involved in. I started working at my current job 7 months ago. 3 months into my job I became close friends with a male colleague. We get along like a house on fire. We went out once as friends and talked for hours about our lives, then the next week he asked me to go to the movies with him. It ended in him kissing me which threw me back a bit as we work together and I was not expecting it. We stayed awake until the sun rose kissing and embracing in each other. I never expected it to go past that night. That was 4 months ago, and this is were my dilemma is: Over the past 4 months we have become closer as friends and more intimate with each other. I have expressed to him specifically I will not have sex with someone unless I am in a relationship with them. He respects this but I leaves me wondering why this has continued and not progressed. We have spoken openly about how things would be if we were in a relationship and how it would be with work. And to this day only one person at my work knows and that this the other person in our office. My query is this: How do I take this "relationship" to the next level with him? I have very strong emotions for this man. I am afraid of rejection (as many of us are) but am also scared that if he was to call it off and say no, I would not only loose the chance of falling in love with him, and becoming one with him, but also loosing an amazing friend who I care deeply about. I am also concerned that if something was to go wrong in this discussion and either one of us was to become upset, tomorrow morning we will have to face each other. There will be no cooling off period. I need some advice: How to ask him to become my partner/boyfriend and take our relationship to the next level without loosing the friendship all together and making our professional relationship strained? -missy
VirtualInsanity Posted March 20, 2007 Posted March 20, 2007 I need some advice: How to ask him to become my partner/boyfriend and take our relationship to the next level without loosing the friendship all together and making our professional relationship strained? -missy IMO dating someone from work is never a good idea. Things happen when they two break up and it's never seems to be positive. It can be but from what I've seen it's not.
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