Young&Sexy21 Posted March 20, 2007 Posted March 20, 2007 Women tend to spend hours talking to me about what kind of man they want versus what kind of man they don't want---but I never hear about what kind of relationship they want. In my experience...I have found that sure, women like to be respected and cared about, but they don't stay happy very long with a 'nice guy'. I don't mean an 'overly' nice guy...but a nice guy. I'm respectful and honest, yet assertive and firm...and in the end I get shat on. Not to say that I'm a victim because I know I determine what happens to me...I don't drink...is that the problem? I'm not boring, but I'm not a big partier and at 22 I thought I wouldn't be the only one. I thought by now we'd be all grown out of that. I---I'm just piffed...I don't know what to do and I don't know what to change. I don't know how to be. I just watched my friend straight dogg this chick that was trying to get with me---and she's hooked to him---??? I just don't get it. Insights anyone?
Woggle Posted March 20, 2007 Posted March 20, 2007 Never put a woman above because they will not respect you. When you put a woman above you that shows her that you are desperate and weak and to her that is unappealing even if on a subconcious level. If you put a woman below you that shows that you are strong and confident and women are drawn to this type of attitude. There are a few rare gems that you can put on an equal level and they are the ones that you should go for. The problem with the woman you are talking about is that you put her above you and she lost respect for you. Your friend put her below him and she respect his confidence and thus was attracted to him.
Author Young&Sexy21 Posted March 20, 2007 Author Posted March 20, 2007 The problem with the woman you are talking about is that you put her above you and she lost respect for you. Your friend put her below him and she respect his confidence and thus was attracted to him. I hear you. I did not put this chick above anything. I merely played her on a straight level. I just didn't treat her like s h i t and he did. I mixed two stories together in my post without making a distinction. My ex is really the one I'm asking about. I don't care about this other broad. With my ex--I can't help but feel that if I hadn't put her above, things'd've been different. However, I think its ridiculous to put my girlfriend in a postion below me. I mean, yeah, don't be needy and all that, and near the end I was kind of---she statred it---she ALWAYS needed me---I'm not allowed to need her...ever??????
phyrespryte Posted March 21, 2007 Posted March 21, 2007 Well I think women like a challenge. I know I want a guy who is nice, but able to stand up for himself. Especially if I'm in a foul mood. With your ex... The relationship sounded one-sided. I don't know the whole situation, but if she was always needy, then she probably wasn't capable of helping you when you needed her. It probably freaked her out that you were vulnerable.
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