Dumper No Contact After Stating She'd Like To Be Friends????

[Young&Sexy21]

I noticed a few different posts about dumpers doing NC---but my dumper has gone NC after stating she'd like to be friends. Do dumpers say they want to be friends to help them get through getting over the dumpee and then once they're over, who cares about the friendship???

 

It kinda hurts. She dumped me 2 almost 3 months ago saying she didn't like me in that kind of way anymore, and there was nothing left for her, but can we still be friends?

 

I was upset: how can you say there's nothing left and still want to be friends??? If you couldn't find anything you liked with me in a relationship, how do you expect to find it in friendship??? But she insisted we could make a friendship work, and that she wanted to stay friends with me.

 

I'm sure she's busy---hey, I'm busy too. But when we walk past each other and she struggles to aknowledge me--she's akward and even tries to be evasive--I mean--a smile and a "hey" is fine. But--nothing. No answer to my text message...I just get the sense she feels whatever she feels and is trying to avoid dealing with it and bury it.

 

In my message to her, some 2 weeks ago, I said I miss your friendship--will you continue to share it with me--not like before, obviously--if no, I'll leave in peace, just please let me know

 

I'm good though. Working on moving on...meeting girls, getting dates, getting shot down too...it's all part of it! But I can't help but feel like this could end on better terms---or that it doesn't have to end

[LucreziaBorgia]

how can you say there's nothing left and still want to be friends???

 

When you use "friends" as an excuse to let the dumpee down easy, and not look like such a bitch for being the one doing the dumping. Note how you are focusing on the "she wants to be friends" and not the "she dumped me" part. That is fairly calculated on her part. Most dumpers pull the old "friends" line on the person they are dumping. Wouldn't you say it works?

 

I can tell you this. It surely does suck to have someone say they want to be friends with you, and then do everything to the contrary. Look at her actions right now, and ignore her words. Her actions are speaking much louder.

 

What to do? Turn, walk away and do not look back. Who needs that sort of "friend" anyway?