girl18 Posted March 20, 2007 Posted March 20, 2007 my boyfriend and i have been together for a couple months now. very short i know. i am 22 and he is 26. he was in a previous relationship for 3 years that he came out of getting extremely hurt by his ex girlfriend and is now VERY insecure/jealous/overdramatic etc. she didn't cheat on him but she basically took advantage of him, they fought all the time, and it was long distance. I was in a relationship for 3 years around the same time and got cheated on repeatedly and I am not at all insecure in our current relationship. we have both been single for almost 3 years and i guess i got over my past relationship and he still hasn't. he just won't let it go. he brings all the baggage of that relationship into ours. we trust eachother when it comes to being faithful. that isn't the issue. we both know that neither one of us will cheat on the other one. the problem is that we get in these stupid fights that he causes that get totally blown out of proportion because of his stupid insecurities. and the fights are seriously over nothing important. stupid crap. he gets angry if i don't answer my phone when he calls me, is EXTREMELY needy, and a little controlling. when we aren't together we fight, but when we are together, everything is perfect like a fairytale. we are both madly in love with eachother which makes this even harder. he admits that he has these insecurity problems from his ex and he tells me that i need to be patient and we can work through it. he tells me all the time he hates when we fight and seeing me cry and he wants to change so bad but its hard. however, we fight all the time and i am always crying over things i don't do. what do i do? why is he like this and can he change? we both really want to be happy and together.
3hundred Posted March 20, 2007 Posted March 20, 2007 It is tough to get over certain things in life and now that he might have seen all the things he is looking for in you, his guard will intuitively be up since he still relates all the good things with a crush at the end. This being all theoretical, if you have the click when you are together, you should keep working it for as long as you can.. it takes time and patience but for something so rewarding, I think you can afford to take a leap of faith.. and as much as he might be trying to get over his insecurities, you might help him by those simple things he might request such as answering your phone or what not..
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