crueltobekind Posted March 20, 2007 Posted March 20, 2007 I'm with a loser! And, even scarier, the loser has brought out a number of these traits in me. I consider, or rather considerED, myself to be a level-headed, usually calm person. But when she starts into the "you're not good enough," "you don't do enough," "your opinions are crazy" mumbo jumbo (none of which is true - and I am being completely honest with myself) I have a tough time not popping my cork. Anger bubbles up to the surface, my heart beats like a bunny, and I can't structure sentences. What's worse, I am the only one in the relationship who admits my shortcomings, and actually works on improving them - often with the help of some really great relationship books. Meanwhile she reads People magazine and flips the TV channels. Oh, occasionally she'll admit that she has problems, but she never does anything about them. So, why do I bother to try to work on my issues if the matter is so one-sided. Because I want to become a better person, with or without her. Period. I'd rather be happy and on my own (as long as we can both continue to parent our child) than in a family unit and miserable. Can anyone else relate / advise?
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