NoChance Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 I apologize in advance for the length of this post, but I'd appriciate any suggestions I could get: Last semester, there was this girl in one of my Univeristy classes that really caught my eye. I'm not great at hitting on girls very smoothly (or at all), so normally, in this situation, I'd try to get to know her through discussing something involving the class, some homework or etc and take it from there. However this was a lecture with around 300 students in stadium style seating, so approaching her would be awkward (imagine trying to approach a girl you dont know sitting in the middle of a crowded movie theatre). To make matters more challenging in approaching her, she would leave and come with a entourage of girl-friends. Needless to say, as you can imagine by the fact I'm posting, I never even tried to approach her, despite getting some obvious, extended glances from her direction that even some of my friends in the class noticed. This semester I was plesantly surprised to once again find out this girl was in two of my classes (by chance in a University of 20,000+). Every class recently, during the class I'm telling myself after class I'm going to approach her and I'm racking my brain of what to say to get a discussion going. Every time the class ends however, my mind goes blank and I wuss out as I watch her leave the room. From the looks I continue to get from her, that both a friend of mine and myself have noticed, it looks like she wants me to go over and talk to her (or at least like she wants to say hi herself). However, I've never really approached a girl like this and I am really shy to start off with. I'm guessing it has something to do with the fact I've had some serious relationships, but they have always started with the girl making the first move. The fact that she always has at least one friend around her makes it even harder, as the only thing worse than getting rejected, is it happening while her friend watches. With this semester approaching its end as well, the chances of me being in a another class with her, or even seeing her again after the upcoming summer break are pretty slim. One of my friend's advice, while simple seems a bit too blunt (grow a pair and just go say hi). The other friend of mine, says I've waited so long, it would be weird now, and even if it wasnst, she would just think of me as this shy guy lacking confidence and wouldnt think much of me by now anyways, so any suggestions on how to break the ice, or even to still try would be great. Thanks, - feeling like I always have No Chance
Hitman10000 Posted March 20, 2007 Posted March 20, 2007 Awww that sounds so cute...kinda like back in high school when two shy students meet up and walk together. It is too late, 7 months to make a move? Dude, chalk this up as experience and find another girl. Women won't tell you this but they hate indecisive men. So to give you some balls, you should make a decision now to not pursue this woman and move on.
Sand&Water Posted March 20, 2007 Posted March 20, 2007 RE: NoChance: Do you expect her to sit on your lap and whisper lovey-dovey things in your ear? No. I don't think so. Will not happen. Lets be realistic here. Stop over-analyzing the situation and walk right up to her. Take a chance. Nothing, good -great or even exciting -will ever happen to you with women if you continue to wither away as a nice single man. Indecisive men are seen as wusses [like Hitman suggested]. Act out soon. Very soon. Right now if you can, before the end of the semester. Sand&Water
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