MF2000 Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 Hello all, Thought you guys could shed some light on my situation. I've been online since December. This site has helped me 'recover' from my last long term relationship, a 2.5 year one with a girl I met at uni, but now I'm in a new sitation. End of last year I went abroad for a holiday and met a girl there at a youth hostel. She was studying in the country for a year and would return to her country at the end of this year. We got along really well and within 2 days we were going out. However in 5 days we went our seperate ways because of finishing our holidays. After this we spoke on MSN and on the phone when we could. I returned to see her, at her university recently, and we continued where we left off. However whilst there, I had queries over our relationship. At the end of last year, she said she was ignoring her ex (who she has been with for a dew years before breaking up mid last year) but I found out that she was talking to him and considered him a good friend and still had a picture of him, with some I sent of ours nowhere to be seen. Because of this I was perhaps a bit distant from her as I was pondering what to do when she'd return back to her country after her year abroad and probably was reluctant to let her know me more. I think she probably noticed this. We never did talk about this or what would happen with us. Today I get a message saying lets end it but lets stay as friends (she is currently away). Basically she says she doesn't know me well and has lost the connection with me but wishes to keep in touch and cannot handle our long distance relationship. Not too sure what to do. My thought at the moment are are to: 1) Send her an email, saying I understood where she was coming from (I sensed what was going to happen, but obviously she took a decision). 2) In the email ask to have a chat with her later (she is away on holidays). Basically just to tell her why I was distant from her when we last met, as I still view her as a friend and would still like to as she does consider me one, due to the reasons stated above (this is probably because there is less 'baggage' between us as we still perhaps do not know each other well). Many thanks for the advice in advance
Author MF2000 Posted March 20, 2007 Author Posted March 20, 2007 Quick update. Didn't send an email to her as I had stuff to do and today she sends another email asking how I am and for me to drop a line. Well I sent the email to her regarding the previous post. Will jsut have to wait and see.
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