Guest Posted March 18, 2007 Posted March 18, 2007 Hey There, I guess this is more intended for the guys but I want both opinions. I've been on a total of 2 dates with this great guy. The first date lasted 6 hours! We talked on the phone before the first date for 4 hours. We click very well. Unfortunately, he didn't kiss me on the first date which I thought was strange. But everyone is different I suppose. On the second date, he reached over to kiss me and unfortunately his timing was a bit off. I had to burp, (without making noise of course) so as he touched my lips I pulled away. Aside from that, I also fell and made a total fool of myself at the dance club. He helped me up which was gentlemanly. I haven't heard anything since. Whats everyone's thoughts?
mark1210 Posted March 21, 2007 Posted March 21, 2007 Well as a guy I'd say it would be frustrating on the kissing part. I can only speak from my point of view but for me to initiate a first kiss takes guts. Some women may not respond favorably to a kiss on a first or even second date. I always attempt on date 2, I figure it will let me know where I stand. One thing I also noticed is that you had entirely too much talk time on the phone prior to the date in my opinion. Personally, I keep the pre-date chit-chat to a minimum so there is a good flow of conversation on the date. That was good that he helped you up, I know several guys who would have either kept walking or just stood there smiling. I'd say if you haven't heard from him by Wednesday he isn't all that interested. Personally, if I was you and that situation occured about the burping I would have made some comment like "that doesn't count a first kiss, I expect another go before the end of the night" or something to that effect. He may have felt rejected.
Lauriebell82 Posted March 21, 2007 Posted March 21, 2007 i agree with mark about this. did u make any kind of comment about this? or did he just think that u didnt want to kiss him and werent interested? that could be why he isnt calling u. he probably did feel rejected, so if u do see him again, maybe U could initiate it. u could just say (at the right moment of course) this is to make up for last night, and go in to kiss him. that being said, dont contact him, let him contact u.
phyrespryte Posted March 21, 2007 Posted March 21, 2007 that being said, dont contact him, let him contact u. Why can't she contact him? I mean she pulled away when he tried to kiss her. If that were me, that would be a huge blow to my ego. I would think she wasn't interested and would've given up.
monkey00 Posted March 21, 2007 Posted March 21, 2007 yea, why cant you call him? He made a kiss attempt on date 2, and you pulled away...things already off on a bad start. I dont know why you're waiting for him to call. If i were you i would have at least texted him or called him a day or 2 after the date saying you had a great time and would like to do it again sometime...at least there you'd be leaving him an opening for further advances.
Lauriebell82 Posted March 21, 2007 Posted March 21, 2007 yeah whoops, i change my response. yeah i agree u should call him and stick with what i said about initiating the next kiss. show him ur still interested because he's probably doubting that u are.
mark1210 Posted March 21, 2007 Posted March 21, 2007 Yep, I'd agree. The ball is in your court. My money is on him feeling rejected and that you didn't like the date and/or him. I'm surprised no one commented on your talking to him on the phone for hours before the date. Everyone I know would think that is a bad idea. So I would also say...if you do call him not to talk on the phone for hours. That way you have a lot to talk about on date 3. And kiss him this time =P
TYASAFAHICSI Posted March 21, 2007 Posted March 21, 2007 Call him. Arrange a third date (will do wonders for his ego). When he picks you up, YOU kiss him and then let him know that was for the one that got away the last time.
whichwayisup Posted March 21, 2007 Posted March 21, 2007 And, tell him that you burped and that is why you turned your head! I'm sure he will find the humour in it!
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