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Everyone at some point in their lives goes through a period of shyness, and if you're trying to make friends or get to know someone then being shy and not knowing what to say can make things very difficult.

 

The problem I'm facing is that I'm having a massive problem in my career atm and I'm trying to change industries under very tight financial circumstances. It is very stressful. I don't know if it has anything to do with this but I became very shy all of a sudden about six or nine months ago or so. I've got some friends but I can't say I know them very well, and interest in women is at an all time low because I feel like I will not be able to socialise. I go out, when I've had a drink or ten I come out with some random nonesense but I'm still drunk and have no idea how I'm being interpreted by others. Plus, I don't wanna be drunk to be able to that freely.

 

I used to be OK with people while I was at uni, I could just chat for hours to the same person, to more than one person and I loved it. Any confidence I had there though has gone out of the window.

 

I don't want some carbon copy advice as I've heard that before. What I'm looking for is someone who has gone through a difficult patch themselves and how they came through it. I just want a bit of encouragement cos it's doing my head in, I'm in social circles and not sayig a word. If I don't try to make an effort I just end up saying nothing, if I try which I know I shouldn't do, then I come out with rubbish. What would you do, or what have you done in my place?

 

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I am currently now going through ( what I hope to only be a phase) a hard patch in my life to. I have been having severe anxiety for the past two years which has totally reframed my thoughts and my outlook on life. In a negative way.

 

What got me through and is still getting my through is hope and becoming used to my body always being shaky. I believe to be that if your shy, the other person detects it right away which gives them all the more power not to be shy. It's human nature!

 

No you don't want to solve your problems by drinking to free your self of your shyness. That is only taking the easy route and will have negative problems in the future.

 

You can never explain the little things that just appear to change quickly in your life, as I used to not have SEVERE anxiety. I used to live freely and the only worry I had about shyness would be dry mouth. Now I have to worry about if I'm having a hot flash or am getting shaky.

 

Your best bet would to be putting your self in situations more that cause you to be shy and try to overcome that shyness with true confidence. Keep doing that over and over again and once you've got it you won't turn back.~!!

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