IpAncA Posted March 18, 2007 Posted March 18, 2007 One girl actually has a picture of me as a phone wallpaper, and a silly one it is. She uploaded that picture in photoshop and created a really weird picture to prove her point that I look like Tom Cruise (wich isn't true!) Are you psychic? Nope. Just a good talker.
Pyro Posted March 18, 2007 Posted March 18, 2007 Could it be.. just a wild guess here so bear with me...could it POSSIBLY have been that after an evening of your charm, your wit, you jokes and limitless humor she decided she didn't like you as much as she thought and that since her period was due any day she would go with someone that made her feel special and wanted? Is it time for the smiley faces and the jumping bunnies yet..? Are you implying that her decision was a result of what her level of hormones were at the time?
taylor Posted March 18, 2007 Posted March 18, 2007 Your ego is like a banana....easily bruised. You say a wussy guy is a guy who does everything she asks without any resistance.....hmmmm...sounds like a great lover
Reckless Posted March 18, 2007 Posted March 18, 2007 Or are those crazy scientists right that woman change their mind with their cycle? I have spots, I need chocolate, I'm cranky, I need a new boyfriend... Swordfish has explained, don't shoot the messenger....
IpAncA Posted March 18, 2007 Posted March 18, 2007 Your ego is like a banana....easily bruised. I don't know why but that made me bust out laughing. Thanks!
Author TheSwordfish Posted March 18, 2007 Author Posted March 18, 2007 Could it be.. just a wild guess here so bear with me...could it POSSIBLY have been that after an evening of your charm, your wit, you jokes and limitless humor she decided she didn't like you as much as she thought and that since her period was due any day she would go with someone that made her feel special and wanted? Is it time for the smiley faces and the jumping bunnies yet..? Jumping bunny's aside. How can I help it that my charm, my wit, my limitless humor, my jokes and my incredible new set of false teeth, aren't period proof? (I think this is getting to cynical ) Or is there really this period thing?
monkey00 Posted March 18, 2007 Posted March 18, 2007 I guess the other guy is actually more what she is lookig for. So in a sense I can completely understand this move. But usually it works the other way around. I think it's quite logical she doesn't want to play games and that she wants someone more serious (I can be serious but dating has to be fun at first) (Guess she is more or less looking for someone who would be there for her, judging our conversations). : If anything that's possible there are girls out there that dont want to deal with the initial dating phase - mystery/unpredictability/etc. and just want to jump straight into a relationship. But thats how it is, it's supposed to be a fun and interesting time to get to know someone before jumping into exclusivity so soon.
Author TheSwordfish Posted March 18, 2007 Author Posted March 18, 2007 If anything that's possible there are girls out there that dont want to deal with the initial dating phase - mystery/unpredictability/etc. and just want to jump straight into a relationship. But thats how it is, it's supposed to be a fun and interesting time to get to know someone before jumping into exclusivity so soon. I totally agree. I have met more girls that tend to claim me after one date. Even though I liked the date and want to go on another one some girls send me messages and say things that seem way out of place in that phase.
Author TheSwordfish Posted March 19, 2007 Author Posted March 19, 2007 Your ego is like a banana....easily bruised. You say a wussy guy is a guy who does everything she asks without any resistance.....hmmmm...sounds like a great lover hahaha, well, wouldn't it be a boring lover? (Or are you puttting this in a certain context? )
Trialbyfire Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 Are you really hurt by this? It doesn't sound like it at all...
Author TheSwordfish Posted March 19, 2007 Author Posted March 19, 2007 It's not so much about being hurt by this. More about being suprised that she decides this. This girl seemed smart and was good looking, but she was more after me, then visa versa. (Sometimes I'm impressed by a girl, you know a certain feeling, that wasn't there this time). Wasn't sure if she was looking for a fling at first, but her words pointed out she was looking for a long term thing. Combine it with the look on her face when I told her my longest relation lasted a few months and I should have known where I stood. (Offtopic: What is it with those "relationhopping" girls just coming out of a long term relationship, looking for an immidiate replacement?)
bridget_jones Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 Swordfish, how old are you? I think you're making it too complicated. She just wasn't that into you, she was into the other guy.
Author TheSwordfish Posted March 19, 2007 Author Posted March 19, 2007 Hey that book about not being into you isn't that good
bridget_jones Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 I love that book. It's my dating Bible. Seriously it doesn't sound like you were into HER either. Also it sounds like she had more of a history with the other guy and it would be difficult to compete with that.
Author TheSwordfish Posted March 19, 2007 Author Posted March 19, 2007 I'm 24 years old. Hey I understand she isn't that into me. And I do accept it But I am surprised by her rational thinking. Me being bad news, so forget about me? In most cases it works the other way around. It's like saying, well the cover is beautifull, the poems in the first chapter are great but let's not read the rest of it, because I don't know what's in it and others might be reading it as well.... (hmm, strange analogy... I know ) yeah, you are right. The history bit is true. But why should the girl suddenly act sane.... instead of acting on the subconscious level.... How is that possible? ;lmao
bridget_jones Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 Oh the He's just Not that Into You book is a gift to women AND guys.Surely you've had women that you stopped calling, told them you were busy all the time, didn't answer the phone when they called, they asked you out but they still didn't get the picture and kept pursuing? Women who read this book save guys having to go through this because they get the picture faster that you're "just not that into them" and move on. Such as with another ex, that book just came out, after I read it I realized he "just wasnt that into me" because hejust called for booty calls, and it helped me realize "hey, he isn't into me, we're not getting back together ever" and I stopped pining for him and reading into his latenight phone calls and moved on. a lot of it's common sense, but lots of women need the common sense. Don't sweat that girl, sounds like you're not having trouble getting dates.
Author TheSwordfish Posted March 19, 2007 Author Posted March 19, 2007 I had more then one girl acting like that. But I learned to be bluntly honest instead of acting vague. I figured I want girls to do the same thing with me. I figured honesty is the way to go when I dated a really good looking girl. But after one date I decided that I wanted towait a while before contacting her again. She texted me a bilion times (my phone was actually broken) her friend told me she actually said she was on MSN all day waiting if I would come online and she sent me an Email asking me if I would kepe my word. (All this within three days). I wasn't honest at first, gave lame excuses, but she didn't get the point. Eventually I told her that I thought she was a great looking, sweet girl but that I didn't have feelings for her. (Well I was honest, but not too honest, I never used the word psycho ) But isn't the he isn't that into you book also a confusing one? I mean, sometimes I am actually really busy or a tad confused and even though I like a girl, I don't do what the book dictates. For example when calling a girl, sometimes I wait a while, what does the book tell women about that?
bridget_jones Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 This book would say if you're not calling her, move on and have fun, don't sit by the phone and don't call him. Good chance he's just not that into you, to be honest. The book says if a guy is really busy, he's not too busy to make a 5 minute phone call, the "I'm busy" thing is an excuse. Yes that girl you mentioned definitely needs to read that book!
Walk Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 I guess my humor added a bit to those rumors. I joked that we should meet in crowded place, so she wouldn't jump on me at the spot. I also asked her if I could take my harem to see if she'd fit in. When she asked me how many dates I had lately, I asked her if she was refering to the last hour, or day.... I think you tried to hard to prove you were "the stud" and blew it. Came out looking needy and pathetic. One 'joke' about how hot you were would've been funny. Two... maybe, depends on the context. The third one and beyond... I would've thought you were over compensating for lacking something and gone for the guy who didn't need to brag. You don't need to try so hard to prove you're desired and confident. If you're confident, it'll show. If you aren't, it'll show. You don't need to force feed it down women's throats.
bridget_jones Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 I have to agree with Walk,I would be turned off, the "I'm a stud" jokes were overkill. I would have responded with something like "Hey, dude, I'M the prize here, not you." If a guy acts like I'm so lucky to be going out with him, that is arrogance.
Walk Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 I have to agree with Walk,I would be turned off, the "I'm a stud" jokes were overkill. I would have responded with something like "Hey, dude, I'M the prize here, not you." If a guy acts like I'm so lucky to be going out with him, that is arrogance. I don't mind arrogant IF a guy can back it up with substance. But I get the feeling Swordfish doesn't really understand whats attractive about himself. He's mentioned his looks.. but nothing more. He derides the guy that got the girl because I don't think he really knows what it is about the other guy that attracted the girl. Even though Swordfish can say the guy is a great guy, and Swordfish can see positive attributes about hte guy.. since Swordfish didn't get the girl, then it must be that the other guy was willing to prostrate himself for her... NOT that the other guy might have been more interesting to her. Or that potentially the other guy had more in common with her.. Automatically assumes the other guy got her because the guy is willing to take it up the butt for her. Implies that Swordfish hasn't figured out what is interesting about himself, BEYOND his looks, that would actually attract and keep a girl. He has to focus attention on "WHY" other women want him to prove he is a great catch. Instead of KNOWING he's a great catch, and allowing that to shine through. I think he brags to protect himself. To show girls that if she doesn't want him then he's not going to be hurt because others want him. Even though he will be brusied by it.
Author TheSwordfish Posted March 19, 2007 Author Posted March 19, 2007 haha, well up the butt isn't what I said. Hey, I know what makes me interesting..... It's my stamp collection Wait a second, ignoring the fact that I don't look bad and other superficial things. I am a great listener (needed to learn that for my job though) and people usually tell me they can have a good laugh with me. I have a busy life working with children. Children call me teacher of the year and I am passionately working on this project for children with learning dissabilities, I'm known for my poems (hey, not in English), I'm a musician (a crappy one at that, but I do have a nice band I play in ) I saw most of europe, BY FOOT, wrecked a thousand piano's, know a whole lot about a whole lot of subjects, (studied various subjects at university) and I have really great smellingg feet! The list goes on, so why would I be insecure?
Walk Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 Wait a second, ignoring the fact that I don't look bad and other superficial things. I am a great listener (needed to learn that for my job though) and people usually tell me they can have a good laugh with me. I have a busy life working with children. Children call me teacher of the year and I am passionately working on this project for children with learning dissabilities, I'm known for my poems (hey, not in English), I'm a musician (a crappy one at that, but I do have a nice band I play in ) I saw most of europe, BY FOOT, wrecked a thousand piano's, know a whole lot about a whole lot of subjects, and I have really great smellingg feet! The list goes on, so why would I be insecure? Because you seem to need to prove you're great. How come instead of having a conversation about things of interest to another person, do you crack jokes about how much a stud you are? Why when I say you need to know what's interesting about yourself, do you then list off why you're so interesting? Why the need to "prove" it? I find you interesting without knowing all that other stuff. And I wouldn't need you to give a list of things to prove it... if it came out in normal conversation, I'd find it even more interesting then the "in your face" presentation on it. I just feel that if you really trusted in the fact that you're interesting to other people, then you wouldn't brag so much. It's just how I interpret it, and I know others do too... Not everyone, just some. I thought I'd point it out because you asked for thoughts.. I gave mine. If you want to toss it aside, then do so.. just understand that some people will see your jokes and comments as hiding insecurity.
Author TheSwordfish Posted March 19, 2007 Author Posted March 19, 2007 In three hours of conversation, three silly jokes, doesn't make me someone who's only bragging. I usually let the other person do most of the talking by asking open ended questions. But hey if you think I would love spending three hours bragging about myself (while madly stroking my own nipples while looking in the mirror I brought along) I don't mind The prettiest woman in the world doesn't exist, it would be me as a tranvestite!
DanielMadr Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 I just feel that if you really trusted in the fact that you're interesting to other people, then you wouldn't brag so much. It's just how I interpret it, and I know others do too... Not everyone, just some. I thought I'd point it out because you asked for thoughts.. I gave mine. If you want to toss it aside, then do so.. just understand that some people will see your jokes and comments as hiding insecurity. Exactly. Hey SwordFish, you can double your dating with being cocky and sometimes funny but it wont get you much far than phone full of numbers. If you are not real cold jerk, dont go this way. There are girls interested in nothing serious just a quick ...... and you can score with them, because imitating jerk you are easily disposable. If you want something more, grow some more balls, you wussy:D
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