kribby Posted March 18, 2007 Share Posted March 18, 2007 Hi, I am in some beginning stage of a relationship... and I was just curious-- this is a question my friends and I discuss quite a lot. So what are some signs that a guy is into you? I really am curious as to what folks think! Thanks! -K Oh, and I tried the search function first-- I have only been a member here for a few days and I hate the idea of asking a question that has already been answered before. Link to post Share on other sites
pricillia Posted March 18, 2007 Share Posted March 18, 2007 signs that he is into you... He makes time for you He is interested in your interests He is there when you need him He seeks you out Link to post Share on other sites
Author kribby Posted March 18, 2007 Author Share Posted March 18, 2007 signs that he is into you... He makes time for you He is interested in your interests He is there when you need him He seeks you out Hi, Thanks for the response... I agree with you. Making time and communicating is quite important to me. What do you think those guys that like to solve your minor problems? Is that caring or oppressive? Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted March 18, 2007 Share Posted March 18, 2007 Most guys do that. My opinion is that it's part of their psychy. If you discuss a problem with them, it's because it needs a resolution so they come up with one. Most women want to discuss the problem, then come to their own conclusions. They discuss a problem, to air it out loud and to get sympathy, understanding, advice and for a ton of different reasons. Link to post Share on other sites
trulycute Posted March 18, 2007 Share Posted March 18, 2007 i agree with Trialbyfire us women like to talk about things to air them out no necessary to have them fixed or solved...we just want someone to listen to us. signs he's into you... 1. he calls when he says he will 2. he shows up 3. compliments you 4. wants to be intimate with you, can barely keep his hands off of you 5. wants to meet your family and friends 6. wants you to meet his friends and family 7. makes dates ahead of time 8. keeps constant contact 9. is affectionate and attentative 10. includes you in future plans 11. smiles at you alot 12. would drive 2 hrs just to see you for an hour 13. dances with you even when there is no music playing 14. plans romantic dates b/c he knows it'll make you happy 15. comfort you when you have a bad day 16. doesn't make you cry 17. he tells you he loves you 18. he shows you he loves you 19. he likes your child or attempts an effort at getting to know them. 20. you'll know in your gut that he's into you and you won't have to ask..... my recently EX BF did all of the above the whole time that we were together until the very end....so it was hard for me to type all of that but he was totally into me and i know he was but sometimes LOVE isn't enough to handle all the other crap in life that we have to deal with.....some people can't handle too much at once and have to leave.... GOOD LUCK --i wish you all the very very best in your new relationship....enjoy it everyday and don't rush....take each day as it comes and take it for what its worth!!.... Link to post Share on other sites
Chamari Posted March 18, 2007 Share Posted March 18, 2007 I think this is kind of a hard call. Last night I went on a double date. The other couple was a friend of mine and my bf's roomate. From what I saw, the roomate talked a lot to my friend while we were in the car--but when we got to a resturant he talked w/ my bf WAAY more than he did to her. He opened doors for her--but it was almost like an afterthought. When walking around, he didn't seem to be paying much attention to where she was--walking off to the side, ahead, behind, ect. At the point where we split up for the evening, I thought he didn't seem all that interested, AND YET . . . when he talked to my bf he apparently went off on how excited he was that she'd gone on the date and is totally into her. ANYWAYS, I guess the point I'm trying to make is that it depends a lot on the guy and what might appear one way to one person can obviously mean something entirely different to another. That said, if he likes you, he'll probably try to find a way to show it, be it running errands for you, lots of physical contact, fixing/updating a computer--what exactly depends a lot on his personality and what his interests are/ what he's good at. Hard as it is, (and I'll admit I have issues with it myself) try to not think about it too much. I know--waaaay easier said than done. But really, if the guy likes you he'll make it pretty clear, given enough time, and if it turns out that he doesn't like you it'll just be frustrating that you interpreted things wrong/he was giving the wrong signals. Link to post Share on other sites
bridget_jones Posted March 18, 2007 Share Posted March 18, 2007 I'm really serious about this. Basically most everything everyone else is posted but when a guy you're seeing is "into you" you KNOW it. I suggest you actually buy the book He's Just Not That Into You by Greg Behrendt. It's an awesome book, it helped me stop pining over an exboyfriend and it was really humorous and liberating and helpful to the question you're asking. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kribby Posted March 19, 2007 Author Share Posted March 19, 2007 Most guys do that. My opinion is that it's part of their psychy. If you discuss a problem with them, it's because it needs a resolution so they come up with one. Most women want to discuss the problem, then come to their own conclusions. They discuss a problem, to air it out loud and to get sympathy, understanding, advice and for a ton of different reasons. You are quite right. I always feel a trifle uncomfortable when folks try to solve my problems--you know the whole I-like-to-stand-on-my-own-two-feet... thingy Thanks for the response! Link to post Share on other sites
Author kribby Posted March 19, 2007 Author Share Posted March 19, 2007 i agree with Trialbyfire us women like to talk about things to air them out no necessary to have them fixed or solved...we just want someone to listen to us. signs he's into you... 1. he calls when he says he will 2. he shows up 3. compliments you 4. wants to be intimate with you, can barely keep his hands off of you 5. wants to meet your family and friends 6. wants you to meet his friends and family 7. makes dates ahead of time 8. keeps constant contact 9. is affectionate and attentative 10. includes you in future plans 11. smiles at you alot 12. would drive 2 hrs just to see you for an hour 13. dances with you even when there is no music playing 14. plans romantic dates b/c he knows it'll make you happy 15. comfort you when you have a bad day 16. doesn't make you cry 17. he tells you he loves you 18. he shows you he loves you 19. he likes your child or attempts an effort at getting to know them. 20. you'll know in your gut that he's into you and you won't have to ask..... my recently EX BF did all of the above the whole time that we were together until the very end....so it was hard for me to type all of that but he was totally into me and i know he was but sometimes LOVE isn't enough to handle all the other crap in life that we have to deal with.....some people can't handle too much at once and have to leave.... GOOD LUCK --i wish you all the very very best in your new relationship....enjoy it everyday and don't rush....take each day as it comes and take it for what its worth!!.... Woah, great list-- I have hereby copy/pasted it and sent it to my best friend. I especially love #'s 9, 11, & 16. When I was younger I thought emotional response-- crying and moaning and groaning about a guy indicated that he was the one for me! Boy was I young (stupid)! Thanks for the response!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author kribby Posted March 19, 2007 Author Share Posted March 19, 2007 I think this is kind of a hard call. Last night I went on a double date. The other couple was a friend of mine and my bf's roomate. From what I saw, the roomate talked a lot to my friend while we were in the car--but when we got to a resturant he talked w/ my bf WAAY more than he did to her. He opened doors for her--but it was almost like an afterthought. When walking around, he didn't seem to be paying much attention to where she was--walking off to the side, ahead, behind, ect. At the point where we split up for the evening, I thought he didn't seem all that interested, AND YET . . . when he talked to my bf he apparently went off on how excited he was that she'd gone on the date and is totally into her. ANYWAYS, I guess the point I'm trying to make is that it depends a lot on the guy and what might appear one way to one person can obviously mean something entirely different to another. That said, if he likes you, he'll probably try to find a way to show it, be it running errands for you, lots of physical contact, fixing/updating a computer--what exactly depends a lot on his personality and what his interests are/ what he's good at. Hard as it is, (and I'll admit I have issues with it myself) try to not think about it too much. I know--waaaay easier said than done. But really, if the guy likes you he'll make it pretty clear, given enough time, and if it turns out that he doesn't like you it'll just be frustrating that you interpreted things wrong/he was giving the wrong signals. Yeah, I here you about this! I have a true problem with this--- Like right now I am dating a guy that is into me... well I can say that clearly right now... but tomorrow I'll be drinking my coffee and think... hmmm.... maybe I am reading this all wrong and then I will worry for a second. I hate moments of uncertainity. I guess I was asking for this list so I can have something to reference that will ground me and not make me worry the living hell out of the guy. Though, actually that's wrong-- That's what I used to do-- (not with my current bf-- but with others) now maturity dictates I worry the hell out of myself!!!!!!!!!!!! Instead of sitting and making the yoga ommmmmmmm ommmmmm I should repeat Chilllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll! Thanks for the response!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author kribby Posted March 19, 2007 Author Share Posted March 19, 2007 I'm really serious about this. Basically most everything everyone else is posted but when a guy you're seeing is "into you" you KNOW it. I suggest you actually buy the book He's Just Not That Into You by Greg Behrendt. It's an awesome book, it helped me stop pining over an exboyfriend and it was really humorous and liberating and helpful to the question you're asking. I am gonna half.com this book. Thanks for the response! Link to post Share on other sites
TheSwordfish Posted March 19, 2007 Share Posted March 19, 2007 Some signs: -He remembers your name -He knows the color of your eyes -He remembers things you told him Link to post Share on other sites
Author kribby Posted March 19, 2007 Author Share Posted March 19, 2007 Some signs: -He remembers your name -He knows the color of your eyes -He remembers things you told him Oh, now that is funny. I don't even remember things I've told him!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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