casey8 Posted March 18, 2007 Posted March 18, 2007 I love this fella so dam much that it hurts, I am thinking about him 24/7, he's just always on my mind. But I know in my heart he dose not feel the same way, I'm somewhat a sensitive girl but I'm proud of that. This guy is my first true love and I see myself being with him forever and being the mumma of his babies but I know he just dosen't love me, I need to stop loving this guy, my heart is just breaking more and more, How can I stop loving this man?? Please help, All help will be very much appreciated
Erik Posted March 18, 2007 Posted March 18, 2007 You can't always trust your heart. How do you know he is not interested? So maybe he is not madly in love with you, but sound like you have not given him the chance to be so.
amaysngrace Posted March 18, 2007 Posted March 18, 2007 I'm sorry you're in so much pain. I know it's hard to do but you should really try to remember that you deserve someone who loves you back. He is foolish to not accept and return the love you've given him. It's his loss. Someday he may possibly realize he should have treated you better and kept you by his side.
whichwayisup Posted March 18, 2007 Posted March 18, 2007 I love this fella so dam much that it hurts, I am thinking about him 24/7, he's just always on my mind. But I know in my heart he dose not feel the same way, I'm somewhat a sensitive girl but I'm proud of that. This guy is my first true love and I see myself being with him forever and being the mumma of his babies but I know he just dosen't love me, I need to stop loving this guy, my heart is just breaking more and more, How can I stop loving this man?? Please help, All help will be very much appreciated You need to distract yourself and keep busy. Retrain your brain and get out of the habit of letting yourself think and fantasize about him. You know he isn't inlove with you - Accept that. Thinking of him is only feeding your feelings, which are not being returned. yes, it's painful and it sucks that he doesn't feel as you do - But the reality is, you gotta move on.......Not saying you have to be dating, but getting out and having fun with friends, flirting and enjoying male attention will be good for you. Not talking or seeing him will help you move on, that and not allowing yourself to think of him ALL the time. day by day you'll get used to pushing thoughts out of your head until one day you won't feel as much.
bridget_jones Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 I'm sorry you're in so much pain. I know it's hard to do but you should really try to remember that you deserve someone who loves you back. He is foolish to not accept and return the love you've given him. It's his loss. Someday he may possibly realize he should have treated you better and kept you by his side. Eh, I don't think that's fair to say. I mean, have you ever had a guy really love you and want you badly, but you just don't feel the same way back? Does that make you foolish? It sucks, but sometimes someone you love just doesn't love you back, it's not their fault, just how life works. It's not really his loss if he doesn't feel it for you in the first place. It would be his loss if he settled to be with someone he didn't love and it would be her loss actually in that case, too.
VirtualInsanity Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 I love this fella so dam much that it hurts, I am thinking about him 24/7, he's just always on my mind. But I know in my heart he dose not feel the same way, I'm somewhat a sensitive girl but I'm proud of that. This guy is my first true love and I see myself being with him forever and being the mumma of his babies but I know he just dosen't love me, I need to stop loving this guy, my heart is just breaking more and more, How can I stop loving this man?? Please help, All help will be very much appreciated Casey I've been there too. There was this one guy I had a hugh crush on. We were friends but the problem was he had a gf. For me I had to accept that he and I were never going to be together. But I think what helped was that I went away to college and met guys my own age and better looking. I forgot all about him after a while.
amaysngrace Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 I mean, have you ever had a guy really love you and want you badly, but you just don't feel the same way back? Does that make you foolish? I'm not sure if I ever had a guy in love with me that I didn't love. To suggest he'd get there in his head without my returning the love would be a little unstable and nothing more than infatuation IMO.
TheSwordfish Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 I love this fella so dam much that it hurts, I am thinking about him 24/7, he's just always on my mind. But I know in my heart he dose not feel the same way, I'm somewhat a sensitive girl but I'm proud of that. This guy is my first true love and I see myself being with him forever and being the mumma of his babies but I know he just dosen't love me, I need to stop loving this guy, my heart is just breaking more and more, How can I stop loving this man?? Please help, All help will be very much appreciated Remedy A: Break all contact with him and meet other guys. Remedy B: Buy the brand new Swordfish On The Beach kingsize posters and use them as wallpaper in your bedroom.
PracticalShade Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 I'm sure you know that love isn't something that goes away over night. It's something that takes time. If you know for a fact that he doesn't feel the same way then the only thing you can do is live your life and try to open your mind to other guys. Imagine what the world would be like if we could MAKE the people we love love us back? I'd still be with the girl I loved when I was 15 haha.. :: sigh :: that was 11 years ago and she's hotter now than she was before :-(
TheSwordfish Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 haha, lets turn that around. I met this girl that had a crush on me when she was 13..... she is so beautifull now....
creative Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 be 1 to 1 with him get him to make a decision and if he says no - let it go!
TheSwordfish Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 Good point creative. Reading her posts doesn't make it clear why he doesn't love her. Could you please update us on the things he said that make you think he doesn't like you?
VirtualInsanity Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 be 1 to 1 with him get him to make a decision and if he says no - let it go! THAT'S easier said then done. Especially if you know you he doesn't feel the same way and you have such stong feelings for that dude. Plus first loves are hard to get over for some.
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