fairy_dust Posted March 17, 2007 Posted March 17, 2007 I'm pretty sure that majority of our families have that few bunch who think they can afford materialistic things up the yin yang. Extend their house to impress guests and who are down right assho*es and bitches. Well I need to get this off of my chest as I seek advice for how I am suppose to handle them when I go back home to visit. So here's my story... I am currently in my early 20s and my life evolves around college and my hubby. Before I was married I was going through a lot of stress and problems that occurred or has been on my shoulders since my parents got divorced. Ever since I was young one of my cousins would treat me as if she is superior than I am. I figured because she is given so much as she grew up and her parents are prideful sh*t heads. Her brothers as well were treated the same way and because they are always given and supported and spoiled they became mean people. They like to compare, put down and intimidate the other family members including myself. Every time we would have family gatherings they seem to show off about any new things they have or have done to their stupid house. They also like to brag oh boy do they love to brag like they are the sh*t, so this does get to you after many years of hearing, seeing and going through the same expectations from them. This is my father's older brother by the way, what really pisses me off is that no one in the family ever tells them off. So many times that my dad just shrieks and doesn't say anything to his brother when he would yell at us and put us down. I am so upset because this has been going on for years, anyway my cousin as well she is still a bitch from what I was told by one of my other cousins. It's like I know when I visit them it's gonna be the same bullsh*t, but I am tired of that sh*t. Someone needs to tell their asses off and let them know how they are making people feel. It's like they feed off seeing people cry and back down if you attest against them. So what is there fu*king issue the like being that way and how would I let them know what pieces of s**t they are when I vist.
quankanne Posted March 17, 2007 Posted March 17, 2007 forget about them being shxtheads – they can't change that. YOU can change how you feel, though, and believe you me, you'll feel better once you decide you're not going to let their vanity bother you anymore. Like breaking free of heavy chains ... the most effective boast stopper I've ever heard comes from my boss. When someone starts nattering on and on about their self-importance about their successfulness, he just grins really big and happily tells them, "How wonderful for you!" And means it. it either results in the other person shutting up because they realize how obnoxious they are, or it satisfies their need to have their ego stroked, which, I think is the case with your family. Don't let them be emotional vampires, feeding off the misery they cause you – they just aren't important enough to merit that kind of role in your life, you know?
Author fairy_dust Posted March 17, 2007 Author Posted March 17, 2007 I do agree with you that I should change the way I feel, I been away from my family for almost 3 1/2 years. Ever since I been away from them and doing my own thing with my husband I must say that I been happier, even my close cousin see's it now. It's just so sad that I feel driven away from them I don't care to be around them and I don't feel that we will ever be close. Or at the least an understanding of how I feel. But like you said they can help that:-) *sighs* I love my faimly but they don't treat me like I am anything related. So I figure i would do the same although my parents tell me 'not to be like that' but I don't listen not o disrespect I just don't want to surround myself by sh*t heads.
riobikini Posted March 17, 2007 Posted March 17, 2007 re: fairydust: " It's like I know when I visit them it's gonna be the same bullsh*t..." Who said you *have* to visit them? Cancel the plans to see them. And do something *fun*, instead. -Rio
Author fairy_dust Posted March 18, 2007 Author Posted March 18, 2007 Yea I was thinking not to have them in my plans... hurt their ego not giving two ****s to see their faces. Fairy_Dust:D
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