Erik Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 I realise hardcore netties does not have the best short-term memories in the world, but scroll back a few pages, and you'll see that my reason for saying what I did was that doing the right thing had cost me dearly.
Erik Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 I've shouldered more responsibility in my life than a couple of braindead bimbos will ever experience.
Island Girl Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 People that post in here as much as you two should not be talking about running away. Haven't you got a life of your own? I am HAPPILY married - to a wonderful man. I have a VERY full life with family and friends. And I do have a very successful career. At this point from what I know about you and your relationship history, I'd not giving advice if I were you rather asking for it instead. I would venture to say that you are the one that lacks a "life" because apparently you do not value the most important things in life. It would be sad if your posts didn't lend themselves so much toward the bizarre. If you lack reading comprehension - the post was regarding YOU saying the best thing to do would be RUN. That would mean I said don't run. Get it?
Touche Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 I realise hardcore netties does not have the best short-term memories in the world, but scroll back a few pages, and you'll see that my reason for saying what I did was that doing the right thing had cost me dearly. If you were REALLY honest with yourself, you'd realize that you never really did do the right thing. I'm sure you don't really get that though. The outcome of your situation tells me that you never really did the right thing. It was never genuine. Some people can't do the right thing to save their lives. Going through the motions doesn't count. Good luck, in life. You're sure gonna need it!
AHIWON Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 He's on a laptop connected wireless, that's my guess, so he can dodge his ex-wife and child - and bolt to another location if necessary... They'd make his life into the next Superhero movie except there's nothing heroic about his perspective or actions... LMAO! Couldn't have said it better. The kinda lamer that tapes a cup covered in foil onto the back of his notebook.....so he doesn't have to pay for it. But it still doesn't work....
Island Girl Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 I've shouldered more responsibility in my life than a couple of braindead bimbos will ever experience. Pathetic that you don't see what you gain in return. Braindead bimbos? Looks like someone got their feelings hurt.
kimberlyk Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 I love my daughter, and I love babies. I felt like I had lost my daughter to a degree, and I wanted to feel what it was like to be a full-time daddy again to a little one. UNBELIEVEABLE! Is this a crock of sh*t or what?!?! If you LOVED 'babies' SO much, wouldn't you want to be the BEST provider and father that you could be? What's wrong with waiting a few more years to work on a career?!....it seems to me that you just have to have everything right here and right now and at everyone else's expense...climaxes, babies, women on the side...jeeez man. Try a reverse way of thought and start thinking of others before yourself from now on. Figures... Sorta planned.... Now, I'll give you advice anyway, advice I regret nobody gave me. Promise me you'll give it a lot of thought before acting on it. What has happened to you is partly your own fault of course.... But if you are deciding to take care of it solely because it is the right thing to do, I say run! Go to Mexico or something. Australia. Thailand is VERY nice. Chance is, and I hate to say this, your kids will have a very hard life no matter what you do. Run now, let the women care for the kids, they are better at it anyway. And at your age, you'll not be a very good father anyway. If you ever come across money, send your women some, and when you feel ready, come back and find your kids. If you stay, you will grow to resent both your women and your kids. I hope you read this before they delete it, and remember the admonishment - think first. I can't fault Erik on any of this here...he did tell him to give it a lot of thought before acting on it and honestly, if I were the ex-wife...I can't say that I would exactly want him to be a part of the baby's life...he can't hold a job and cared more about climaxing than his family! Erik did tell him to send money, and that's probably the only time I would want to hear from him. After all, if you look at the comment "I wanted to feel what it was like to be a full-time daddy again to a little one", he would have thought about that BEFORE he went out and banged other women and he would STILL have been a FULL-TIME daddy to baby #1...what that tells me is that he intends to somehow neglect baby #1 of a full-time daddy which just means that the mother will find a replacement daddy. This whole post is just nonsense in that he knows he did wrong, but he will more than likely offend again and he is not and will not learn from this mistake and for that, maybe he should run...
AHIWON Posted March 17, 2007 Posted March 17, 2007 I've been smelling from the first post a troll. Anyone else?
Island Girl Posted March 17, 2007 Posted March 17, 2007 I've been smelling from the first post a troll. Anyone else? Possibly correct. My nose is stuffed up today.
kimberlyk Posted March 17, 2007 Posted March 17, 2007 ...I expect for my story to make me a few enemies here... Read in between the lines???
bridget_jones Posted March 17, 2007 Posted March 17, 2007 You made some mistakes. You are insightful enough to admit that! You are aware of that. I'm not going to berate you because you must have posted here because you already feel badly about yourself. We all make mistakes. Mistakes are what make us human. Now it is time to do something to resolve those mistakes. Get a job, or some sort of job training, stick to it. Try to overcome your weaknesses for women and your addictions. If you can afford counseling, please do it. I made a huge mistake in my life a couple months ago which cost me my job. I have made efforts to get my life together, and have today been offered another position and a chance at a new start in a different part of the country and I am excited about it. Think POSITIVE. have positive thoughts. THat's what I have done. I don't know what else to tell you but you have done a good thing by admitting your mistakes. The fact that you have made mistakes does NOT make you a bad person. It makes you human. Please get help and live in happiness and peace. Enjoy your daughter and think to yourself how you want to be a good dad and role model for her. She loves you. If you don't want to become a stronger person for yourself, do it for her! I have confidence you can change your life if you set your mind to it.
Storyrider Posted March 17, 2007 Posted March 17, 2007 I've been smelling from the first post a troll. Anyone else? That's what I was saying earlier. The first post is strange in the following ways: --It includes some unusual figures of speech that sound distintly non-American --It reads like a case study rather than a personal narrative --It reads as though it were written in the third person and then later changed to the first person
Erik Posted March 17, 2007 Posted March 17, 2007 Listen, Storyrider, why would I make such things up? I realise I am being sloppy with my postings, but if I was to write an OP-piece like this one, I can assure you there would be nothing funny about the language. Maybe the story is made up, I don't know. But I didn't do it.
Storyrider Posted March 17, 2007 Posted March 17, 2007 Listen, Storyrider, why would I make such things up? I realise I am being sloppy with my postings, but if I was to write an OP-piece like this one, I can assure you there would be nothing funny about the language. Maybe the story is made up, I don't know. But I didn't do it. Fair enough, Erik. We've had two cases of made up stories in the last month or two that got everyone very involved, so I guess my radar is up.
Erik Posted March 17, 2007 Posted March 17, 2007 I guess you are right, this is a spoof. I try to advice people to the best of my abilities, but I strive to give the advice that nobody else will. A lot of the advice in here is just regurgitated self-help books or off the shelf psycho-babble, neither of which I care for very much. This story hit a sore spot, maybe I got too involved. Your story was the first I read in here; don't remember it anymore, though. How's that for short-term memory?
bridget_jones Posted March 17, 2007 Posted March 17, 2007 claimed she was pregnant with a 62 year old married billionaire's baby and she was going to live in wealth for the rest of his life on the child support and 'keep quiet' money? I remember a couple people were even looking up billionaires on the internet and they had pictures, and they had narrowed it down to a Russian billionaire because he was good looking (they had the pictures posted and there's a limited number of billionaires in the world.) that whole thing was so amusing to follow because I believed it until the end. The poster was very creative and talented with writing.
Storyrider Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 Your story was the first I read in here; don't remember it anymore, though. How's that for short-term memory? Ah, well. It isn't a very stimulating story anyway. claimed she was pregnant with a 62 year old married billionaire's baby and she was going to live in wealth for the rest of his life on the child support and 'keep quiet' money? I remember a couple people were even looking up billionaires on the internet and they had pictures, and they had narrowed it down to a Russian billionaire because he was good looking (they had the pictures posted and there's a limited number of billionaires in the world.) that whole thing was so amusing to follow because I believed it until the end. The poster was very creative and talented with writing. That is the one.
Author Wraith Posted March 20, 2007 Author Posted March 20, 2007 I leave for three or four days, and come back to all this? Wow. How in the hell did it ever get to the point where I am being pegged as the alter-ego of another member? KimberlyK, if you have any hope whatsoever of me taking the pontificating advice you're giving, you might want to watch how you speak to me. You seem to have this flawed idea that because someone makes a mistake against someone else that they do not care for them or love them. Episodes of selfishness do not denote a lack of love. You are basing your opinions from a cut & dried attitude that everything is indeed that simple. I am unimpressed with your anger and vindictive attitude, and I have yet to see where you are qualified to give me advice in such a condescending fashion.
Author Wraith Posted March 20, 2007 Author Posted March 20, 2007 I can assure the rest of you that I am not a troll, and that my personal account is not fabricated in any way, shape, or form. Storyrider, by over-analyzing what you read, you arrived at a decidely inaccurate conclusion in an attempt to impress us with your detective skills. Well done.
Storyrider Posted March 20, 2007 Posted March 20, 2007 I can assure the rest of you that I am not a troll, and that my personal account is not fabricated in any way, shape, or form. Storyrider, by over-analyzing what you read, you arrived at a decidely inaccurate conclusion in an attempt to impress us with your detective skills. Well done. Thanks for the insight Mr. Spock.
kimberlyk Posted March 20, 2007 Posted March 20, 2007 KimberlyK, if you have any hope whatsoever of me taking the pontificating advice you're giving, you might want to watch how you speak to me. You seem to have this flawed idea that because someone makes a mistake against someone else that they do not care for them or love them. Episodes of selfishness do not denote a lack of love. You are basing your opinions from a cut & dried attitude that everything is indeed that simple. I am unimpressed with your anger and vindictive attitude, and I have yet to see where you are qualified to give me advice in such a condescending fashion. I just said how I would feel if I were the ex, if you can't handle it, you shouldn't be posting your 'story' asking for help/opinions and not expect to get a wide variety of feedback...mine just happened to be one that you didn't like. I am sure your ex didn't like what you did behind her back, think about how she feels and there is nothing she can do to turn back time for the mistakes that you made, she must feel horrible! I have never wronged anyone in that sort of fashion. I can only imagine how much your ex wife is hurting right now. I also never said that you didn't love or care for her, but I will let you know this: ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS! I only wish that your actions would have been a reflection of your feelings, if that were the case you would have never even put yourself into a position to have to have read my comments! I am not here to make enemies...don't forget (if you thoroughly read through this thread you started) that there was talk of this thread being made up (fake) and I did point out a few things that made it seem not real (ridiculous)...but since you have to backlash and point out my mistakes and anger/vindictiveness...I won't be posting on this thread again. Good luck with your 'issues'.
bridget_jones Posted March 20, 2007 Posted March 20, 2007 Now I know this is probably going to be some disagreement here but...OK, people want to tell this guy "He made his bed, he should lay in it" etc. Well...I agree he has responsibilities and was definitely demonstrating some irresponsible behavior, basically related to youth. It may also have to do with his background, I do believe a lot of what we do as young adults have to do with our backgrounds and as adults we have to come to terms with our past and overcome it and lead responsible lives. That being said...these women in his life are manipulating him and are just as, if not more guilty than the original poster. Their strategy is to hold on to this guy by getting pregnant. The other aspect, which is SORT of off-topic....a lot of women suddenly get pregnant and feel they are owed SO much from the guy who got them pregnant if their "oops I'm pregnant" strategy doesn't work to get the guy to commit to them. It takes two to tango....OK, well I'm 38 years old, never married, had serious longlasting relationships, just haven't met the right guy to marry or was in the right situation. So criticize me all you want about my unmarried "spinster" status, that doesn't bug me, because by posting this, I know I'm leaving myself open for criticism of being in my late 38s, unmarried, and giving relationship thoughts and advice to others because you probably see me as unsuccessful in the relationship dept. (Luckily I don't see myself that way.) That said...I am 38 years old, have been in and out of relationships and sexually active on and off since the age of 18. I have managed to never get pregnant. It is not difficult to not get pregnant. The birth control pill works wonders when used as the directions state. The condom used with birth control pill pretty much guarantees I will not conceive through an act of intercourse if the relationship has not reached a full understanding of trust and commitment yet, so if a guy won't use one early on I just say "no" to sex that day. It would never occur to me to have a child unless I had full emotional support and consent of the guy. Yes this 2nd chick Wraith impregnated he was aware of she wanted to get pregnant, but you can't tell me that she wasn't using the getting pregnant to confirm a committed relationship from Wraith. I am not excusing anything that Wraith has done, because I encourage him to get training, a job, etc. and face up to his responsibilities. However, to a big extent Wraith is a victim of these women. I have a feeling I'm going to get flamed here but I am just giving my opinion. Also this is off-topic, too, but in this day and age of pro-choice, if a woman tells a guy she's not married to she's pregnant, and they had not been consciously planning to get pregnant, he should be able to say "I will pay for you to get an abortion, that is my support." Sounds crappy but he should have a choice, too. If she doesn't want an abortion, then she is responsible to raise the child.
Erik Posted March 21, 2007 Posted March 21, 2007 All right, no spoof. I stand by my advice, only remember it is only advice, I am outlining a possibility that is on the margin of sensibility, but it is an option and you should consider it too. As I said, ultimately use your own judgment, this is very serious stuff. A friend of mine was hit by spontanaeous wanderlust and went to Venezuela. He got job as a deckhand on a schooner and today he is a captain of such a vessel - having done naval school in the mean time, of course. This was many years ago, maybe you can't do that anymore, so plan your future, the world is not as easy-going as it was twenty years ago.
Gunny376 Posted March 21, 2007 Posted March 21, 2007 This story is more screwed up than trying play soccer with an American football. More complicated than trying to do Chicness algebra ~ which tells to the tale. First you’ve choose the behavior ~ now you must deal with the consequences. Remember that the next time you go thinking with the wrong head. Next you need to get and hold down a job ~ two of them if need be. If all these single moms that aren’t receiving child support can do it ~ if 12 million illegal aliens can walk hundreds if not thousands of miles from Central and South America ~ I know a good old boy from Mississippi can! :mad: I don't want to hear about you can't find and hold down a job ~ you might not like the job or jobs you find ~ but what that got to do with anything? Check out the show "Dirty Jobs" on the Discovery Channel ~ their dirty, nasty, and I'm sure I'd hate every second, of every minute, of every hour, of everyday ~ but its a job! You might want to find out where babies comes from ~ doesn’t sound as though you’ve got a firm grasp on the concept just yet~ ! And, while you’re on the subject you might want to find out what condom is and how to use one ~ its not that complicated. I’d be trying to mend fences with the wife ~ in the sense of working out a plan to where the two of you can and will set aside your differences and be a decent parent. You’d best go pour yourself a big old cup of wake the **** up. Its something like one out every four women that have HIV don’t even know they have it. Unless you want to get on the HIV weight-loss plan, I wouldn’t so quick to hop in the rack with the first gal that came along. Endorphins be damned. I’m just as sorry as I can be, but if your looking for sympathy ~ the best place you’re going to find it in the dictionary somewhere between **** and syphilis! Time to grow up and be a man! Suck it up, no one said it was going to be easy so suck it up and do the best you can. P.S. Last I heard, if your looking for steady work the United States Marine Corps, Army, Navy, Air Force, Coast Guard, and Boder Patrol were hiring!
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