DanielMadr Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 I'd say you've got that one ass backwards too, but in here, that would make me a minority of one, it seems. The crucial test is: can you hold on to a man AFTER you've given him all he wants in bed? And thats the reason for sex issues. They want to figure it out before. When they get dumped before they have sex, they can say 'He left me because I hadnt gave him sex.' It is the safest way to protect her ego.
DanielMadr Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 It has been my experience that guys don't really commit until they have slept with a woman....if they like, even love the woman, they still need that physical connection to get the emotional connection.... I know a guy wants sex from me from the first moment he asked me out....I don't get insulted by that. In all honesty, I want it, too, if I'm attracted to him. A guy simply needs to show good manners along with his sexual interest. Can he wait a bit? Does he have self control? Is he selfish? Will he wait a few weeks until I feel ready to let go completely? I love sex, and I'll wait until I feel comfortable enough with a guy to be able to let go. I really couldn't get serious about a guy who wanted to wait until marriage. It's an issue of compatibility and intimacy -- intimacy that is purely non-verbal. How does it feel to get as physically close to a person as it does to get emotionally close?...the line gets blurred and physical becomes emotional and emotional becomes physical. That's probably why people wait to have sex, otherwise our brain chemistry tricks us into a relationship with people who aren't so good for us emotionally. But, at some point, when everything else clicks, sex is the next natural thing we do to get closer....and that's a good thing.... Absolutely true, healthy, balanced and mature attitude. You always make my day Nicki:love:
nicki Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 Yeah, you can't figure it all out before...it's a process. And having sex with someone is not a promise...it should only be done when you feel you just have to do it. Then it's because you WANT to. I will only have sex with someone when I feel no inhibitions with that person. There's no way to figure it all out before when you are missing an important piece of the puzzle. I look at having sex with someone as another piece of information about compatibility.
nicki Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 Aw, thanks (Team America is one of my faves. "America, F*ck Yeah!"
DanielMadr Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 Aw, thanks (Team America is one of my faves. "America, F*ck Yeah!" Team America concentrates all knowledge of politics, relationships and martial arts. They should screen it at universities. F*ck Yeah!
DanielMadr Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 Yeah, you can't figure it all out before...it's a process. And having sex with someone is not a promise...it should only be done when you feel you just have to do it. Then it's because you WANT to. I will only have sex with someone when I feel no inhibitions with that person. There's no way to figure it all out before when you are missing an important piece of the puzzle. I look at having sex with someone as another piece of information about compatibility. Exactly. What if she snores for example? You marry her before sleeping with her and then you have to listen to her snoring every night.
Author Erik Posted March 16, 2007 Author Posted March 16, 2007 It has been my experience that guys don't really commit until they have slept with a woman....if they like, even love the woman, they still need that physical connection to get the emotional connection.... I know a guy wants sex from me from the first moment he asked me out....I don't get insulted by that. In all honesty, I want it, too, if I'm attracted to him. A guy simply needs to show good manners along with his sexual interest. Can he wait a bit? Does he have self control? Is he selfish? Will he wait a few weeks until I feel ready to let go completely? I love sex, and I'll wait until I feel comfortable enough with a guy to be able to let go. I really couldn't get serious about a guy who wanted to wait until marriage. It's an issue of compatibility and intimacy -- intimacy that is purely non-verbal. How does it feel to get as physically close to a person as it does to get emotionally close?...the line gets blurred and physical becomes emotional and emotional becomes physical. That's probably why people wait to have sex, otherwise our brain chemistry tricks us into a relationship with people who aren't so good for us emotionally. But, at some point, when everything else clicks, sex is the next natural thing we do to get closer....and that's a good thing.... Spot on! How come YOU don't get flamed for saying that?
DanielMadr Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 Spot on! How come YOU don't get flamed for saying that? Change you nick to Erica and write what you prefer instead of what did somebody wrong and you wont get flamed neither:D
Trialbyfire Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 Why must people always bring the topic of marriage into a discussion about waiting? Waiting isn't about blackmail, it's about an emotional connection.
Author Erik Posted March 16, 2007 Author Posted March 16, 2007 How come i get flamed when I suggest a girl sleeps with her BF, but there is a goddamn specific technical term for not cheating on your GF.
kribby Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 How come i get flamed when I suggest a girl sleeps with her BF, but there is a goddamn specific technical term for not cheating on your GF. Huh? Are you sayin' exclusive is the technical term??
Author Erik Posted March 16, 2007 Author Posted March 16, 2007 Well, technical and technical; it is used in an idiomatic way: going exclusive. Exclusive to what? I know what exclusive means, but I didn't understand it in the context. Never heard it used like that before.
kribby Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 Well, technical and technical; it is used in an idiomatic way: going exclusive. Exclusive to what? I know what exclusive means, but I didn't understand it in the context. Never heard it used like that before. Really? There is a thread on this very topic-- right now... <At what point are you two exclusive?>
Author Erik Posted March 16, 2007 Author Posted March 16, 2007 Not before I came here, that is. I suspected it meant what you say, but as I said, I have been flamed for promoting promiscuity, so I thought that maybe I had misunderstood something.
Author Erik Posted March 16, 2007 Author Posted March 16, 2007 Oooh! I see. Dating other people does not equal cheating?
kribby Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 Oooh! I see. Dating other people does not equal cheating? Hmmm... well, if you are not exclusive... I would say NO.
Author Erik Posted March 16, 2007 Author Posted March 16, 2007 ??? Are you saying that it is normal to practice, uh, open relationships?
Author Erik Posted March 16, 2007 Author Posted March 16, 2007 My bad. 'Dating others' - I thought 'sleeping with others' straight away. Maybe I should log off for a few hours.
kribby Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 Huh-- I am just saying if you are dating some dude-- and some other dude-- just having fun ... basically activity partners... Until you and the guy decide that there is a relationship worth developing-- then you agree to be exclusive...
Author Erik Posted March 16, 2007 Author Posted March 16, 2007 Yes, I see now. We don't really date in Denmark - if you are with someone it is always exclusive. Or cheating.
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