LaughMachine Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 Well I got asked out on a date a cuple of days ago, and decided to bring my friend, if my guy brought one of his friends. The first date went okay but I don't feel the chemistry that much. My bestfriend is honestly already falling in love with the guy I set her up with. I am very dissapointed in the fact that I don't like my guy because it would just be perfect opportunity to always double date. Should I give it a cuple more dates? Hes cute, sweet but I just don't feel it there....
Pyro Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 Well I got asked out on a date a cuple of days ago, and decided to bring my friend, if my guy brought one of his friends. The first date went okay but I don't feel the chemistry that much. My bestfriend is honestly already falling in love with the guy I set her up with. I am very dissapointed in the fact that I don't like my guy because it would just be perfect opportunity to always double date. Should I give it a cuple more dates? Hes cute, sweet but I just don't feel it there.... Thats your call. Do you think that he is worth it? You said that you didn't feel the chemistry, but perhaps with just one date you didn't get the chance to really get to know him.
alphamale Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 Should I give it a cuple more dates? Hes cute, sweet but I just don't feel it there.... No you shouldn't LM
kimberlyk Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 You seem unsure, so maybe you shoud try again but not on a double date, maybe a one on one and really get to know who he is and what he's about. You never know...
ruby_gloom Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 It's good to hear that you're dating again, lm. I think that you should continue seeing this new guy only if you feel like there might be potential for more/if you want to give him and yourself another chance. You shouldn't, however, keep on dating him just for the sole purpose of being able to double date with your friend, as that would be unfair to both he and you. If you didn't "like" him and didn't really feel much, then you might want to consider looking elsewhere. Who knows? You might find a guy better suited for you with whom you can actually and really enjoy your double dates with.
Author LaughMachine Posted March 16, 2007 Author Posted March 16, 2007 Alphamale I don't know if your being sarcastic, but I'm just asking for advice. I went on my second date with him last night. The chemistry is just not there and I don't feel at all that we clicked in any way. It just dissapointed me alot because no my bestfriend has a new beau and really really likes him. And I'm left in the dumps. He is also 5 years older than me. How about that? haha
LoveLace Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 Don't worry I'm sure there will be more dates to come. Everyone is different but I personally don't assume that chemistry should be there right away..if it is then great, but I would give it at least a couple dates to see. And I know how it feels when your friends have it and you don't. I'm 30 and surrounded by happily married friends with kids and I don't even have a date and it's a very rare occasion that I get asked out. I can't even stand the sight of couples anymore without crying. But I live my life to the fullest I can anyway. I try to not think that I am supposed to be just like them although I am very disappointed not to have what they have. Keep dating, smile, flirt, be yourself, and the chemsitry will happen...then again I take that advice myself only to still be here and very single... anyhow, don't worry you won't turn out like me you'll be fine!
Pyro Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 Alphamale I don't know if your being sarcastic, but I'm just asking for advice. I went on my second date with him last night. The chemistry is just not there and I don't feel at all that we clicked in any way. It just dissapointed me alot because no my bestfriend has a new beau and really really likes him. And I'm left in the dumps. He is also 5 years older than me. How about that? haha Like someone else mentioned already, don't just date him for the fact that it gives you and your friend a chance to double date. Don't be disappointed that your friend has clicked with her date. So now it has been two dates and no chemistry? Maybe you should stop right where you are at but the third time can be a charm. Let us know what you decide to do.
Author LaughMachine Posted March 16, 2007 Author Posted March 16, 2007 Thanks guys for all the advice! I haven't spoken with him today which says he could probaly tell, by my body langauge last night that I wasn't to keen on him. I woulden't date him because my friend is feeling his bestfriend. But I was very dissapointed last night after I arrived home. It isn't really the fact that I'm still single and she isn't. It just for the first time was a perfect opportunity to double date. But I can't change how I feel. I have no dating experience but that shoulden't matter too much. If you feel someone, you feel them. I'm worried if I hang out with them this weekend, my friend will be feeling her guy alot and I will be awkwardly uncomfortable. Good thing is though he said even if nothing works out we can always become friends. I'm not used to letting people down in person, mainly on the internet. Time to grow up lol Love lace, have you not put your self out there?
Pyro Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 Thanks guys for all the advice! I haven't spoken with him today which says he could probaly tell, by my body langauge last night that I wasn't to keen on him. I woulden't date him because my friend is feeling his bestfriend. But I was very dissapointed last night after I arrived home. It isn't really the fact that I'm still single and she isn't. It just for the first time was a perfect opportunity to double date. But I can't change how I feel. I have no dating experience but that shoulden't matter too much. If you feel someone, you feel them. I'm worried if I hang out with them this weekend, my friend will be feeling her guy alot and I will be awkwardly uncomfortable. Good thing is though he said even if nothing works out we can always become friends. I'm not used to letting people down in person, mainly on the internet. Time to grow up lol Love lace, have you not put your self out there? Well if you don't feel the chemistry, be sure to let him know. Don't just continue on dating him. By doing that, you are giving him false hope, but as long as you are honest with him, then its all good.
Author LaughMachine Posted March 16, 2007 Author Posted March 16, 2007 Well if you don't feel the chemistry, be sure to let him know. Don't just continue on dating him. By doing that, you are giving him false hope, but as long as you are honest with him, then its all good. Thanks riddler. I woulden't want to lead him on and than have a unexpected awkward kiss! ahh haha like the picture. I remember when I was little I those movies were sooo scary! There silly yet fun to watch haha
Pyro Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 Thanks riddler. I woulden't want to lead him on and than have a unexpected awkward kiss! ahh haha like the picture. I remember when I was little I those movies were sooo scary! There silly yet fun to watch haha No problem. I figured that a hooror flick fan like yourself would like the avvie. Take a good look because after tomorrows festivities, the avvie comes down.
Author LaughMachine Posted March 18, 2007 Author Posted March 18, 2007 I'm taking a good look at it, but my display is all messed up. Can't hardly see any pics:( wah
Pyro Posted March 18, 2007 Posted March 18, 2007 I'm taking a good look at it, but my display is all messed up. Can't hardly see any pics:( wah Whachoo talking about LM?
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