Do you believe that if you don't have sex within three dates with a person, you are

[Erik]

In general Europeans are much more relaxed and liberal and open about sexual activities. Americans tend to be very uptight about sexual relations mainly due to their puritanical background. Do not be fooled by the look that America is sexually liberated because it is not....all you see are sexual images that are meant to sell movies and products.

 

Seems I was fooled. I thought Bridget was a Bible-thumper.

 

As for the puritanical: my first (non-Danish) SO was very religious, from a very small, very insular community. Sex was practically banned from the public arena, you couldn't buy a Playboy. But she and her fellow sisters had no problems with sex what so ever. Maybe because it was the only thing you could do in her village. (There was only TV broadcasts three days a week)

[Erik]

Also, people in here are much freer about chatting about their sex life than Danes are. Admittedly, I've not been on a Danish site like this one, maybe I'm wrong.

[DanielMadr]

Virgins!?!? Are you insane? My first date was a virgin, what an effing disaster! Give me a hot tramp any day, the more experienced the better. Or a married woman.

 

I have to admit Im not ONS type of guy although Im considered one.

 

I have my rules.

I dont kill what I wouldnt eat.

I dont date what I wouldnt f@ck.

I dont f@ck what I wouldnt date.

[Erik]

What is an ONS?

[DanielMadr]

What is an ONS?

 

One Night Stand.

[Erik]

Neither am I, really. Good sex takes calibration, you'd want a couple of months at least to get to know each other.

[DanielMadr]

Neither am I, really. Good sex takes calibration, you'd want a couple of months at least to get to know each other.

 

Take Bridget Jones out on date then:D

[Erik]

I meant a couple of months of sex. Everybody has their own sex-personality, it takes a while to discover all the buttons.

[mental_traveller]

I wouldn't wait 2 months for sex, unless there was some excuse like long distance, death of a relative etc. Even if I really liked a woman and she was perfect in every other way, if nothing physical has happened by that time then I would have already met a f*ck-buddy, ex, or ONS to get some action, simply out of sheer frustration.

 

IMO if you wait 2 months, then most of the guys who would stick around that long are going to be doormats, wimps, or just plain desperate. Yes you might get lucky and find it's a good all-round guy, but in most cases such a man would be thinking "why the hell should I be waiting so long when there are plenty of other women who don't have this hangup?". Since you have not slept together yet, there won't be any exclusivity, and most reasonable guys are going to get attention elsewhere while you are doing your vestal virgin act.

 

I would say that there needs to be some bedroom action by the 5th or 6th date at the latest. I mean you cannot tell if someone has long-term potential until you have had a good night of passion together, can you? Someone could act perfect for 2 months and then you discover they have a herpes outbreak or erectile dysfunction, or are clueless in bed and won't do anything other than close their eyes, lie back and pray to Jesus. This kind of stuff is just as important to find out early on as their job, interests, attitude to relationships, and so on.

[bridget_jones]

Two months is nothing. And a guy who really digs you, he'll stick around, just hanging out and spending time with you is a gift to him.

 

We buried this thread a long time ago. I'm done being crucified for actually wanting a relationship and knowing a guy before having sex. It works for me.

[DanielMadr]

Two months is nothing. And a guy who really digs you, he'll stick around, just hanging out and spending time with you is a gift to him.

 

We buried this thread a long time ago. I'm done being crucified for actually wanting a relationship and knowing a guy before having sex. It works for me.

 

Why to question it if it works for you then?

[bridget_jones]

Because he brought up that topic again.

It's pretty much the guys who won't wait for two months for sex, they're just after that anyway.

[DanielMadr]

Because he brought up that topic again.

It's pretty much the guys who won't wait for two months for sex, they're just after that anyway.

 

Or they think they wont have it from you ever;)

 

1. I believe you can weed out hit&run guys earlier than in 2 months.

 

2. I believe you cant find true connection without physical intimacy. Its only half of the puzzle.