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Do you believe that if you don't have sex within three dates with a person, you are

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bridget_jones Established Member

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playing games and being cruel with someone? Because I choose to wait about 2 months or so, to develop a relationship and emotional connection, does this make me have Victorian ideals? Because Erik has posted that this is true about me because of these things, and also that all Danish women believe that dating is all about having sex and that relationships are pretty much all based on sex and all of us should come to terms with that and just have sex right away.

tragicglands Established Member

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just have sex right away.

Agreed. It's just like playing golf, except with two balls.

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playing games and being cruel with someone? Because I choose to wait about 2 months or so, to develop a relationship and emotional connection, does this make me have Victorian ideals? Because Erik has posted that this is true about me because of these things, and also that all Danish women believe that dating is all about having sex and that relationships are pretty much all based on sex and all of us should come to terms with that and just have sex right away.

 

Oh boy. :laugh: This is going to depend on the person you know.

 

My answer is no I don't.

Erik Established Member

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Hey! You actually DID sum them up quite nicely!

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OK, I didn't read all the "Scandinavian threads" but...

 

No matter who you are, what culture you're from, what nationality, what gender...

 

You have sex with someone WHEN AND IF YOU'RE READY and NOT UNTIL THEN! No sex after 3 dates=Victorian? Give me a break!!

 

Some people, even if they have a lot of sexual experience, wait weeks or months. Some people have sex on the first date. You do what you're comfortable with. If you scan through some other LS threads, you'll see that there is an incredible range of sexual experience, "rules" about when to have sex, philosophies about sex, etc.

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No matter who you are, what culture you're from, what nationality, what gender...

 

You have sex with someone

That's true. Well, it's more a privilege, than a right. Most people would go completely nuts if they weren't getting some.

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OK, I didn't read all the "Scandinavian threads" but...

 

No matter who you are, what culture you're from, what nationality, what gender...

 

You have sex with someone WHEN AND IF YOU'RE READY and NOT UNTIL THEN! No sex after 3 dates=Victorian? Give me a break!!

 

Some people, even if they have a lot of sexual experience, wait weeks or months. Some people have sex on the first date. You do what you're comfortable with. If you scan through some other LS threads, you'll see that there is an incredible range of sexual experience, "rules" about when to have sex, philosophies about sex, etc.

I never read those threads either but this is perfect.

 

I'm not even Victorian, I'm so far off the radar I'm frigid and I don't care. When I'm ready, I'm ready and no one will tell me otherwise. It's my body so if you like it, you're going to have to wait. Can't wait? Best to go elsewhere. Don't let the door hit'cha in the arse on the way out.

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bridget_jones Established Member

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You could have saved yourself a lot of time.

 

Hey! You actually DID sum them up quite nicely!
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BJ (haha!) - no, it does NOT mean you're Victorian if you wait 3 dates. 300, maybe, but certainly not 3 dates.

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So, what do I do now? Obviously nobody has read the thread in question. Do I repost them here or what? When I say Bridget summed things up nicely, what I basically meant was that she didn't call my sisters sluts, because she did that a lot in the thread. Quite a lot of stuff is kinda glossed over here, to state it mildly.

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Uhm, 'my sisters' would mean Danish women in general, she was not being that personal.

 

The thread is here, in case anyone should be curious.

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t114590/

 

And, trialbyfire, it surprises me you say you did not see it, as you posted in it.

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I said they are not any different there than any country, slutty women are everywhere as are non slutty. You're the one who stereotyped Danish women as all being one way.

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... and you called me a liar too, on several occasions.

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"Dating a woman for a month and not getting any is pathetic."

Erik Established Member

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This is getting silly. Read the thread, guys! Lot's of drama, hot sex and randy Danish blondes.

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go ahead and post the quotes in question which offended you and your country so much?

You had a lot more offensive comments. I did not directly state Danish women are sluts.

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Well..

I'm sure there are Danish women who have self-respect and caution with getting STDs and don't do that. There are a lot of slutty women here, too, and all over, it's not just a Danish thing."

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"I feel sorry for those women, they don't understand how special making love is, and they have no self respect, giving their bodies to someone right off without developing anything of substance emotionally or intellectually with them. And I'm willing to bet that if it's true what you say, STDs run rampant among those women and tourists to your country beware of the locals!"

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exactly! I didn't say Danish women are sluts, I said there are slutty women everywhere. Thanks for proving my point.

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" Just because the other Dutch girl on here is OK with sleeping with a guy right away,doesn't mean the whole country is, she has also been taken in by the words of men, those dutch guys really have it down to get in women's panties."

 

(By Dutch, Bridget means Danish)

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"I don't buy that it is custom that women are expected to have sex within three dates with a man to show interest, or it's over. If it is, you have a whack country over there."

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I was saying that partly ironically because I do feel sorry if the attitude is having sex right away is the only way to develop a relationship with a guy. I DO feel sorry for Danish women if sex right away is the societal expection....if that is true, a lot of women are having sex when they don't really know the man too well and they aren't really ready because they believe they have to do so in order to keep seeing him. That's sick! AND I've read a couple of Letter-to-Elise's other posts....things aren't going so well with that guy, and she would have had a LOT better insight about him if she would have gotten to know him well and developed an emotional and intellectual connection with him, she would have had more to base on her choice to sleep with him on. Now she's finding he's kind of a domineering clod....had she dated him for a month and gotten to know him....she could have found that out sooner. Oh well.

 

 

"I feel sorry for those women, they don't understand how special making love is, and they have no self respect, giving their bodies to someone right off without developing anything of substance emotionally or intellectually with them. And I'm willing to bet that if it's true what you say, STDs run rampant among those women and tourists to your country beware of the locals!"
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If a woman waits that long to get busy with a man then she is just not that into him.

 

speaking two months time...

 

part of having an emotional connection is having a strong physical connection as well.

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I really do.

 

 

If a woman waits that long to get busy with a man then she is just not that into him.

 

speaking two months time...

 

part of having an emotional connection is having a strong physical connection as well.

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