i screwed up again!!....how can i get her back.

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ok so ill try to make this a short version. i am 19, my ex girlfriend is 18. we met about 4 years ago. first girlfriend, boyfriend for each of us. after 3 years in a serious relationship with her, i got lazy, i didnt do much to work in the relationship, i was a jerk, treated her badly, and took her for granit and she was obviously very hurt by all this. so she broke up with me. it was devistating for me. she quickly rebounded and started dating another guy for a few months which even hurt me more. she then broke up with that guy, but was still very hurt by me, bitter and angry. it took me along time to finally convince her that i would never treat her like that again, and things would be different if we got back together and i wanted to make things work. so this past august we got back together but we never really had a big conversation about what we needed to work on together and how we could strengthen the relationship. which was most my fault that it didnt happen. and now feb 07 comes around and i start to get lazy again, not caring much, acting like a child, being inconsiderate. and she tried to sit down and talk about it and i wouldnt pay attention much. so she broke up with me again just a few weeks ago. ofcourse i tried to say im sorry, i dont know what i was thinking, please let me make it up to ya. but she is very bitter, and angry. she says she doesnt want to get back together, she doesnt think it will ever happen. and she says that she already gave me another chance, and why should she believe me again when i say im sorry. she says she doesnt believe anything i say anymore and that it will take her along time to trust me again.

 

 

alrighty, so thats pretty much the whole story. i dont know what happens but after a little while of being togehter, i take her for granit. im so freakin stupid cuz i love this girl to death, and we used to have a very very strong, loving relationship together and i screwed it up not once, but twice. i called her today, trying to say i was so so sorry, i want to make it work, please just give me 1 last chance. and all she has to say is ive heard it all before, i dont believe u. and everytime i call her she seems to be getting more bitter and bitter. she said dont call me for a week or so, im not over it yet and ill just keep saying means things to ya before then.

 

 

so finally, about my question. what should i do. i know some may read this and think wow, u are a jerk, u dont deserve another chance. i kno, i totally agree with ya. i feel like a freakin idoit. i want to be back together with her. giving up and just forgetting about her and moving on is not an option for me. should i just leave her alone for a while and not talk to her and bother her??? she is tired of me calling everyday beging her to take me back. and i asked her how i can earn her trust back and all she said was that some say time heals all wounds. i mean how do u convince someone to give u a 3rd chance at a relationship??? she also said the only reason we got back together last time was that she had a small bit of hope that things would work but now she has none. how do i give her hope??? how do i show her ive changed and want to change???

 

i feel really stressed about this lately and very depressed, i dont know what to do. this whole situation consumes my mind all day. and i feel, by sitting back and giving her time to cool down, and maybe forgive me that im passing up a chance to get back together with her.

 

 

please i would appreicate ANY help at all.

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Alright you asked....since you've let her down twice, youre going to have to really prove it. SO start doing everything you would do to show her attention and do it for 6 months to a year. She's not gonna buy it for a long time but the only way to prove youve changed is to do the changed. you may not get her back but proving it with that much effort should compensate for all the attention you stopped giving her.