alexa137 Posted March 15, 2007 Posted March 15, 2007 ok heres an update briefly--i decided yesterday not to be home when he got off work(trying the n/c thing) he texted me "what r u doing" i just said walking at part--he came home late i was already in bed nothing said he went to couch--so this morning i texted him "out of sight, out of mind" he said "what" then "should i move today?" " what r u mad about", i'm not mad at u", "i'm not mad i think u r acting the way anyone would" i said"its not fair to put me through this emotional while you figure out what you want", i guess since u r almost out all night anyways why bother coming here", what do you do everyday for the past 4 weeks that we havent been toegether-are you seeing someone else? if so tell me and i will defintely move on!", why u text me asking me what i was doing if i ask u u get mad-doesnt make sense if u want time apart, what do you expect from me and dont say you dont know", i've done so much for you-but what have you done for me? i have to give up" he says " i dont know what to say", weve got to talk", should i move to my dads tonight?", no i dont need anthoer girl", i say " when we talk u r mean 2 me and get mad and its not worth it anymore", do you want to end it?" if you truly love someone you dont take breaks-better to break up", so you dont need or want me either?",if u dont want me then i dont want to see you or talk to you", thats wrong that youve strung me along for 4 weeks and now u decide to move out", then he asked me "do you want me out today?' "you are rushing me" i said" i cant make your decisions" "how- yu have been wanting & talking about it for weeks!" its so annoying and confusing--i wont be home til i absolutely have to tonight, i have a kid in school so i cant stay out to late! plus i have no money or gas! nowhere to go! i put a post it note on his stuff saying leave your key on the table
luvtoto Posted March 15, 2007 Posted March 15, 2007 i said"its not fair to put me through this emotional while you figure out what you want" This is a horrible place to be, I've been there before. Don't know all your details, but it's a classic case of a woman just not valuing herself enough.
LakesideDream Posted March 15, 2007 Posted March 15, 2007 Sounds like there is a lot going on. It is very difficult to understand your post. All the text messaging shorthand does not transilate well. You didn't mention the type of relationship. Marriage? Shacking Up? Dating? You mentioned a child, his? What brought all this on? Why don't you have money? It sounds like you work. Please clarify in English so we LS'ers can comment.
Author alexa137 Posted March 15, 2007 Author Posted March 15, 2007 sorry i have many other posts! dealing with situation for weeks! were dating a year--living together since july--got a house together in oct now have to move out next weekend--we just got done fighting for the past hour--because i finally told him to move out today--but he came early from work and i was trying to be gone and he caught me--so i jumped up and left out the door he stopped me -told him i cant look at you--hurts too much--thats why i said move out --you know out of sight out of mind---so we did the texting back and forth and then calling and i came back to get something and argued he started packing etc--i say its his fault all this could have been avoided--if he would make up his mind--well basically i said is this the end he said i dont know--i wanted a yes or no answer0--he couldnt give it to me--and he didnt move since its pouring down rain--i was crying etc--told me to stop overeacting--excuse me how can i not--i love him and he loves me but doesnt want to forgive me which i dont understand! that i should have thought about what i was do back then--well ive i could change it i would-but i cant--and i have done a complete change for the past 5 weeks,which he says hes noticed but still wants time apart--but i cant do that with him living here--i dont know why he cant make a decision--so i left saying--you leaving here means you dont want me and its over and i dont ever want to see you again and have a nice life! and i walked out the door-- he must not care enough because love is supposed to conquer all -==at least to me--except for cheating and abuse
Guest Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 its me alexa137, i cant sign in and post!!! today i told my bf to get out--left crying arguing and ive been at my moms since 5pm--went to the house to see if he moved his stuff at 8pm nothing yet--i hid my car and ran out! well hes been calling me nonstop and leaving messages and texting me for hours! now hes worried--im hoping i can stay at my parents tonight or at a motel--but what pisses me off the most is he is at my house(told landlord to remove his name asap) since hes not paying rent anymore and was supposed to move the 1st--it will burn me up if i find out he slept in my bed or snooped through my things--this is the first night that he has been there alone-so how do i kicked him out without literally putting his stuff outside! i dont know what to do-i cant stay away from there too long--i work at home so i need to be there--and i have to start packing to move next weekend! help!!!
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