Guest Posted March 15, 2007 Posted March 15, 2007 My wife and I have been married for 17 years and have had our good and bad times together. When she turned 36 she decided to lose weight. She is a very beautiful redhead and now with the weight off she looks that much better. We have always refrained from the party scene until she has lost weight. Now she wants to go out (with me) every weekend and she just recently got a tatoo. She is scheduled for a breast implant surgery in one month. When we go out, guys hit on her all the time. She says she is to kind to be mean to them and will dance with some of them. I just wonder if she is hanging around me long enough to support her until a younger man comes along or if she s going thru a mid life crisis. Any help would be useful. BTW I am 36 average build.
Sup Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 It looks like she's looking around, if you know what I mean.
seibert253 Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 Where there's smoke, there's fire. Hopefully she not out testing the waters. If she goes out, with you, then comes home, with you, and you get a good romp in the sack, then all's well. When she wants to go out "with the girls" (without you), then your going to have a big problem.
norajane Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 Have you talked to her about what's going on with her? Not in a confrontational way, but just ask her how she feels about her body, how she feels about herself, if she's happy in the marriage, if she's happy with where she is in life, what are her hopes and dreams for your future together. All this going out could be a phase. She feels better about her body now and wants to enjoy it. And it sounds like she married young, so might want to blow off some steam she didn't get a chance to when she was younger. It's great that she wants to go out WITH you rather than going without you. That should make you feel better about your relationship. Do you compliment her frequently? Tell her how important she is to you?
pricillia Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 why don't you enjoy the change in her accept it, don't be afraid of it. Let her know how great she looks and how attracted to her you feel. You don't have to come right out and say it, you have been married for a long time, maybe now is time for a refresser between the two of you. romance her... then F**K her eroticly
reservoirdog1 Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 It may be innocent. But, the best advice in terms of being prepared for the unexpected is, "hope for the best, prepare for the worst." Thus, I suggest that you do something similar yourself. Start hitting the gym and work on losing some weight. Update your hairstyle. Buy some new threads. If you wear glasses, get contacts. Hell, get your own tattoo. Whether she's looking for greener pastures or not, this will make you more attractive in her eyes. And if she IS looking for greener pastures, seeing YOU getting hit on will generate in her the same spark of jealousy that you're experiencing. And if she FINDS what she considers to be a "greener pasture", then you'll be that much better prepared to re-enter the dating scene. Sorry if this sounds callous and not very hopeful, but I did all of the above and it worked like a damn.
pricillia Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 It may be innocent. But, the best advice in terms of being prepared for the unexpected is, "hope for the best, prepare for the worst." Thus, I suggest that you do something similar yourself. Start hitting the gym and work on losing some weight. Update your hairstyle. Buy some new threads. If you wear glasses, get contacts. Hell, get your own tattoo. Whether she's looking for greener pastures or not, this will make you more attractive in her eyes. And if she IS looking for greener pastures, seeing YOU getting hit on will generate in her the same spark of jealousy that you're experiencing. And if she FINDS what she considers to be a "greener pasture", then you'll be that much better prepared to re-enter the dating scene. Sorry if this sounds callous and not very hopeful, but I did all of the above and it worked like a damn. I like my advice better....
Mr. Lucky Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 why don't you enjoy the change in her accept it, don't be afraid of it. Let her know how great she looks and how attracted to her you feel. You don't have to come right out and say it, you have been married for a long time, maybe now is time for a refresser between the two of you. romance her... then F**K her eroticly I had the same thought, why not (within bounds) enjoy it? Some women just blossom later - keep the communication open but have fun! Do you know how many men post here that they wish their wife was more concerned about her appearance? How they wish their wife would get up off the couch and do something? I guess us guys should be careful what we wish for... Mr. Lucky
addicted2love Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 My wife and I have been married for 17 years and have had our good and bad times together. When she turned 36 she decided to lose weight. She is a very beautiful redhead and now with the weight off she looks that much better. We have always refrained from the party scene until she has lost weight. Now she wants to go out (with me) every weekend and she just recently got a tatoo. She is scheduled for a breast implant surgery in one month. When we go out, guys hit on her all the time. She says she is to kind to be mean to them and will dance with some of them. I just wonder if she is hanging around me long enough to support her until a younger man comes along or if she s going thru a mid life crisis. Any help would be useful. BTW I am 36 average build. At first I swear I thought it was my husband who posted this... being a woman in my mid 30s who just lost weight...I can tell you exactly how she's feeling....sexy...probably for the first time in years! She is probably enjoying the attention she is getting...but mainly she wants that attention from you. If she's wanting to go out with you...go! Now is not the time to get insecure because your wife is feeling "hot". Now is the time to be proud that you have a hot wife! I agree with Pricilla...romance her...spice it up...talk to her about it...do what ever it takes. But most of all NOTICE her...if you acknowledge this new found confidence she has she will lavish you with all of her "sexyness"...if you ignore it because you are feeling "less then" or self concious about it...it could definately take a turn for the worst.
Sup Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 At first I swear I thought it was my husband who posted this... You just never know!
Noos Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 I hope that she pays attention to you and talks to you when you go out together. it sounds to me like she is revelling in her new appearance and enjoying the attention...she's building up her self-esteem and confidence again. I do think that booking in for a boob job shows that she is getting a little obsessed with her appearance though. I think you should talk to her about why she feels the need to do that. I think you should also alk to her about how she feels now and her feelings towards the future of your marriage - just to dispel your own doubts.
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