whereismylife Posted March 15, 2007 Posted March 15, 2007 He said he would have no further contact. How do I trust him and how do I know?
whichwayisup Posted March 15, 2007 Posted March 15, 2007 More details would be helpful.... To answer your question, if he is upfront with you, given you his passwords to his email, allowed you access to his cellphone records, not only says but backs it up inactions, to show how sorry he is and makes a huge effort to gain your trust again, then in time, hopefully together you two can fix your marriage. Another thing to do is together write ONE final email to the OW and tell her NO CONTACT under ANY circumstances. If the OW is married, you let her know that if she contacts your husband, you and your H will be intouch with HER husband.... Hope this helps.
Freedom Now Posted March 15, 2007 Posted March 15, 2007 With all due respect WWIU, I do not agree with the letter to the OW. My xMM did that with me. She was looking over his shoulder as he wrote it and emailed it to me. Not five minutes later, he called begging me to disregard the message. That letter, although may work for some, may not work for others. It depends on HIS true level of commitment to the marriage. And only time will tell for the OP. Whereismylife: I am sorry for your pain. Install a keylogger on his computer. Getting his passwords isn't enough because he can very easily get a new email address from another site; a site that you aren't aware of and have communication with her that way. My xMM did and still does. Watch him very closely. Get a recording device and hide it in his car. You cannot just simply believe him because he says you can. He lost that right. And I am an xOW. Believe me, you need to keep an eye on him. I know these sound extreme. But you are in a war and you must go into battle fully armed. Best of luck to you.
Guest Posted March 17, 2007 Posted March 17, 2007 only way to to know is to check. I am the ow and my mm got caught 3 weeks ago with me. She came to my house. Who know what he told her. But he is still calling me and coming over. She has not yet checked up on him because she " trust" what he says. This has been going on 2 years.
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