Guest Posted March 15, 2007 Posted March 15, 2007 what are the best chances of getting back with an ex in the future after her saying we're better off as just friends: ignoring her, or trying to be friends? it's been NC for 2 weeks, and she has emailed me, but i'm not sure if i should respond. is it a bad idea to tell the truth and say I can't be friends with her if she sees someone else?
2ndIINone Posted March 15, 2007 Posted March 15, 2007 it's possible, sure. If you play your cards right. First and foremost... she said.... "We're better off as friends." Hopefully, you didn't argue or whine about it... and went straight into NC. If so, keep it there! She emailed you... you didn't respond. Right on track... and don't. She left you. Period. To be with someone else? By herself? Job? No time for a relationship? It doens't matter. She initiated the 'leave' so, let her walk. For how ever long it takes. Hopefully, by the time she hunts you down for ignoring her, you'll be in a different state of mind... NOT thinkin' of her, but rather quite happy dating someone new. The hardest part is NOW.... the sweatin'.... who she with? what's she doin'? Is she thinkin' of me? Who cares? You have to act in a way that SHE'LL be the one wonderin'. And who knows? Anything can happen in the future. Most likely, you end up meeting someone BETTER who wants more then 'friendship' Conclusion: You'll have a better chance of getting back with her, when you're over her.
Dubb Posted March 15, 2007 Posted March 15, 2007 it's possible, sure. If you play your cards right. First and foremost... she said.... "We're better off as friends." Hopefully, you didn't argue or whine about it... and went straight into NC. If so, keep it there! She emailed you... you didn't respond. Right on track... and don't. She left you. Period. To be with someone else? By herself? Job? No time for a relationship? It doens't matter. She initiated the 'leave' so, let her walk. For how ever long it takes. Hopefully, by the time she hunts you down for ignoring her, you'll be in a different state of mind... NOT thinkin' of her, but rather quite happy dating someone new. The hardest part is NOW.... the sweatin'.... who she with? what's she doin'? Is she thinkin' of me? Who cares? You have to act in a way that SHE'LL be the one wonderin'. And who knows? Anything can happen in the future. Most likely, you end up meeting someone BETTER who wants more then 'friendship' Conclusion: You'll have a better chance of getting back with her, when you're over her. All you need to know right there.
Guest Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 it's possible, sure. If you play your cards right. First and foremost... she said.... "We're better off as friends." Hopefully, you didn't argue or whine about it... and went straight into NC. If so, keep it there! She emailed you... you didn't respond. Right on track... and don't. She left you. Period. To be with someone else? By herself? Job? No time for a relationship? It doens't matter. She initiated the 'leave' so, let her walk. For how ever long it takes. Hopefully, by the time she hunts you down for ignoring her, you'll be in a different state of mind... NOT thinkin' of her, but rather quite happy dating someone new. The hardest part is NOW.... the sweatin'.... who she with? what's she doin'? Is she thinkin' of me? Who cares? You have to act in a way that SHE'LL be the one wonderin'. And who knows? Anything can happen in the future. Most likely, you end up meeting someone BETTER who wants more then 'friendship' Conclusion: You'll have a better chance of getting back with her, when you're over her. I did try to get back with her for a while, because I felt I had to prove to her that I would make changes for her (spending more time with her than I did before.) She knows I would now, but still just wants to be friends. I did try to convince her to get back together a few times, maybe it was a mistake, but I was never immature about it. What if she thinks I'd only talk to her if she comes back to me? Is NC still the best option in getting back together in the future?
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