Ahsan Posted March 14, 2007 Posted March 14, 2007 so im an 18 yr old guy living in dallas and my ex gf is 17 living in college station..about 3.5 hours apart. we first met 2 yrs ago where our 'story' only lasted a few weeks, i met her and i went back to dallas and she basically went back to her ex. 3 months later i was with someone new and she came back to me..then 7 months later after i broke up with my gf. we finally met after 2 yrs again in college station. things instantly got better again. we were together and spent the last 8 months together. i did everything for this girl..ive driven down 3.5 hours just to see her for 30 f***in minutes! i did all in my will power to keep her happy..and last week she broke up with me because she "didnt want a relationship" now. i know we are still young..but she says im the one she wants to marry and have kids with? we had everything planned out..she wants me but just not NOW. and im the one hurting bc this is the 2nd time shes left me..she seems unaffected..what do i do? i never hurt this girl..i trusted her so much. she cheated on her ex bf and i STILL trusted her with my life..im hurting so much every little thing reminds me of her and brings tears to my eyes..i want to move on but..please even a little advice will help..do i text/call her? we still talk like nothing happened..like before we go to bed we talk on the phone. what do i do..please just a little advice for a broken heart
kimberlyk Posted March 14, 2007 Posted March 14, 2007 Wow, she really seems confused if you ask me. I really don't see how she can want to be with you, but just not now. Maybe what she is saying is that, she wants to 'play the field' or maybe just 'see what life is about' before she settles with one person...I may be totally off here, I don't know her so it's hard to say. I can say this, you have a life, you are in the pilot seat, go on with your life plans, you are young, make the most of it while you can. If she comes back, so be it, but one thing she must not expect you to do is to sit and wait for her...that is not fair to you. I say you get out there and concentrate on yourself, if you meet someone else that you like, don't deny yourself the opportunity to be happy because of this girl who cannot make up her mind. You deserve a woman who knows what she wants!
wlminfla Posted March 15, 2007 Posted March 15, 2007 Hang in there man. I know this is probably not want you to want to hear, but the problem is not with you...it's with her. If what you say is true, and I'm sure it is, then you have done everything you can. But I'm right there with you on the fact that nothing seems to satisfy. I moved to two different cities for the same girl, she said she wanted to marry me, then I bought the ring and she kicked me to the curb. Granted, I could've taken a few lessons from you and tried harder and that's why it's still killing me. And now she's dating someone else after six years with me. My advice is to just hang in there, and go have some fun in Deep Ellom in Dallas and talk to her only when you absolutely must.
Living_For_Me Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 Ahsan. I feel for you mate. I really do. I'm going through very something very similar at the moment. What you need to do mate is cut all contact with this girl. Keeping any form of contact with her is just going to prolong your agony and make it impossible to move on. You're still young, there is still so many things (and women) you should do before even thinking about settleing down. I know it's a tough pill to swallow but women who love their men don't want to be apart from them. She doesn't want to be with you....i think the message is pretty clear. Try to look at the positive about all of this. Think about all the time you will have to yourself. Use this time productively to make yourself a better man. At the end of the day mate, it's her loss.
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