alexa137 Posted March 14, 2007 Posted March 14, 2007 what are some small signs that you are fed up with waiting and think you might be moving on? since this is my first real relationship i need help--for many who have read other posts of mine in the past month kinda should know whats going on--so i want him to realize that im not waiting too much longer for his decision--he made me upset last night and its so hard to show it because he gets mad when i cry etc...im trying to keep busy but its hard with no money gas or things to do in this area so people give me some ideas to show him that he should hurry up!
oppath Posted March 14, 2007 Posted March 14, 2007 You can't show him to hurry up. He must make that decision on his own. Nothing you can do will influence it other than living your life well, which is the BEST revenge. I understand how tough it is to do that when you are heartbroken and hoping he will come back to you, but you must do it. Exercise. Volunteer. Do things. Don't contact him. If he contacts you, briefly respond "I had so much fun doing xyz." It's not easy.
Author alexa137 Posted March 14, 2007 Author Posted March 14, 2007 i dont really call him--i made sure iwa snt home when he got off work today--usually he will call and ask where i am-but he didnt--he probably knows i'm upset about last night--he wants me to talk but then when i do--he complains--well its hard not to contact him when weve lived together since july! 1 more week though and we shall see--ive been going out every weekend-and he doesnt like that at all! he doesnt really ask so i dont tell but just trying to leave hints that i might not be around when he does decide he wants to be with me!
IfWishesWereHorses Posted March 14, 2007 Posted March 14, 2007 I would be very concerned about a man who got "mad" or "angry" when I cried or showed emotion. That is not a good sign.
kimberlyk Posted March 14, 2007 Posted March 14, 2007 I agree with 'IfWishesWereHorses'...any man that shows no compassion while his woman is crying is a man that no woman needs in her life...bottom line!
Cossette4 Posted March 14, 2007 Posted March 14, 2007 The funny thing is, when you try to "act" like you are moving on so that he will be concerned and show interest, it doesn't work. It's when you really honestly move on that they come back, or so I've read And then the irony is you have moved on and don't care. Life's funny like that.
Author alexa137 Posted March 15, 2007 Author Posted March 15, 2007 its not that he doesnt have compassion --i mean he gives me a hug most of the time when i cry tells me to stop because he doesnt like seeing me this way! but it can be avoided i tell him, just give me a second chance and forget about the time apart! maybe its just getting old for him--seeing me crying almost everyday for 4 weeks--it hurt so bad-still does but i dont get the anxiety attacks or feel nausea like i did in the beginning--he has cried in front of me when ive cried but tries to hold it on--i know he loves me alot thats why he cant leave--but today im trying to ignore him but that will only lead to an argument when he gets home--i wasnt home when he got home from work-which usually means i dont want to see you because you made me mad last night while talking--told him i wont bother him anymore expressing my feelings about the situation--he texted me awhile ago asking me what i was doing--its ok for him to ask but i guess i cant ask him since he thinks i treat him like a child--i dont ask where you are and what you are doing mostly for curiousity or because i caare and dont wnat othing to happen to you or get i trouble,,etc... it doesnt bother me if he asks me what im doing, etc.....
dignityback Posted March 15, 2007 Posted March 15, 2007 Cossette4, how true your words are. If you are breaking up with someone and then you bump into them and you make a point of saying that you are happy and you don't care if he hasn't called, you are not fooling him or yourself. Sometimes it is better to be honest (not collapse in a heap crying) but just let them know you miss them, but then don't hang around if they try and show you compassion as that will hurt. You have been honest and that is better than playing stupid games hoping that if you ignore him he will chase after you. What is wrong with showing him what he already knows-you love him.
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