Guest Posted March 14, 2007 Posted March 14, 2007 MM and I have been in a struggle recently as to where the affair is going-if anywhere. I have been seeing him for 6 years--on and off. About three months ago I got really angry with him and told him not to bother coming round--his dithering was making me crazy. He was saying one thing and doing another. Well he stopped calling me for about 3 weeks. He likes being in charge and calling the shots and I was putting up an orange flag. Then we bumped into each other and he is all flirty with me and looking me up and down. I think he thought I was just going to reconnect with him but I had been thinking in those 3 weeks. So I ever so politely said that I was in a hurry and if he wanted a chat he could call me. I could sense him take a sharp intake of breath. A week goes by and we see each other again in the post office. He again makes a point of waiting for me as he is served first and I make small talk with him. Then he decides to look me up and down again and it is so obvious that he is after sex. Instead of saying do you want to come back to my place, I said "my offer of a chat remains". He says "that would be nice in a very sarcastic way" and then I said "well you can do whatever you like". He then said "Oh yes, the world is my oyster" and couldn't wait to get away from me. I am glad that I stood my ground and didn't cave, but he is behaving like a spoilt brat. I don't know if he is trying to manipulate me into doing what he wants. One of the reason why we had our argument was because he was cuting down on the time he was spending with me saying he wanted to stay longer but couldn't. So his wife is watching him like a hawk but he doesn't want to discuss it. Any ideas what he is up to.
overandout Posted March 14, 2007 Posted March 14, 2007 He wants you on his terms only. He thought you would cave in when he saw you and make it easy for him. You didn't, so he had another go in the post office. Telling him you are happy to chat is telling him you won't be sleeping with him. He doesn't want to talk to you, he can do that with his wife. So he is annoyed with you, and saying to you "the world is his oyster" is him telling you just the opposite. He is on a tight leash at home and is fed up that you have knocked him back. He wants you to cut him some slack and you aren't, so his life isn't too great at the moment. His wife is watching him and his OW is being difficult. He will probably lick his wounds for a while and he may be back. Question is, do you want a manipulator like that? Whatever you do, don't go running after him as that is probably what he wants.
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