tikster Posted March 14, 2007 Posted March 14, 2007 ok sorry if this is long, but iwanted to add backgroudn info to help get better advice. so here i go I hane been working with my ex for almost a year. we were friends for 4 months before he initially asked me out. i went out with him twice and he kept asking me t go to parties, but i said no even though i did like him. after about five months of just beings friends again we went out to a movie and decidied to start a relationship. it was a short term relationship which lasted bout 2 half months, but full of emotion (which i'm questioning now). during this time i was unhappy because with school and work we never got to spend that much time together, but when we did he would forget me. one example was when we made plans to hang out one sunday, but later on in the week a friend asked him to go to his superbowl party. now, my bf didn't actually tell me he was going to go. i had to find out through over hearing him talking to co-workers. i would visit him at work n bring him food, but he would never do thosee little things for me. so all in all i felt like he wasn't really into me or something. i would get upset and eventually tell him. he promised he's try but nothing became of it. now to the break up. after a while (i know this is lame,) but i noticed a new girl on his myspace, but tried to ignore it. i became upset with him not knowing y at the time, but in hindsight i guess i knew deep down what was coming. so one day after hanging with his friends instead of seeing me after a week of no personal contact, just talking on the phone, i was really upset and contemplating breaking up. i even wrote him an e-mail sayin that we needed to talk because i was unhappy. he begged me not to break up. so i went to see him one day while he was at work just to talk and resolve our problems. at first it seemed olk, but he was kinda distant. then he said that there was one issue, that his familly didn't approve of us being together because he's we are from two different cultures. i cried a little, but didn't want to get in the way of his family and we parted ways. throughtout that first week i noticed that girl creep up his top list (told u it was lame). a few days later i said" i can't believe u have another girlfriend". he said he didn't but then he told a co-worker that he was goin to see his gf later after she got outtta work while i was in the back room, but heard. i told him that i caught him and that he obviously never cared about me and that i wish i could take back alot of things. he said he had to move on, ha. so fast forward to week two of break up. my coworker tells me that my bf asked her if it was right to break up with his gf to be with someone else, he needed to end things and he felt ****ty. so now i officially kno that he wanted to be rid of me for someone else. he still tries to talk to me at work even though i am clearly ignoring him.i don't know what to think. i am wondering if he ever did or still has feelings for me or if i was truly being used. i figured that since i didn't initially start dating him and we were friends that there was something more to "us", but apparently not. i'm pretty much over him and doing no contact and he's not contacting me outside of work either. my friends think he's not over me, but he doesn't even try to contact me and he acts like nothing happened and he seems all happy with his new girl judgin by his myspace which i have deleted him from my friends list and not looking at no matter what. i just need insight because my mind is working against me right now. thanks for reading.
jusified Posted March 14, 2007 Posted March 14, 2007 I was very much like you tikster in a sense my ex did not appreciate all the little thngs I did for her and the care and effort I put into the relationship. With that said I know you must feel bad but think about it, if he wasn;t really that good to you so what f he left you for someone else?? Isn' that a good thing. If you were really good to him and he left you for someoe else of cause he will eventually get a feeling of hmmm, maybe tikster was good to me, I want to go back to that so I get treated better. It doesn't mean he loves you, he just want to be spoilt while been selfish and not really care about you. Live your life, try and leave him out of your life so you can see things more clearly later on. Trust me, with time you will find some one great for you and you will both treat each other like the way you deserve Cheer up, its hard but don't let him take happiness away from you.
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