how do you spy?

[alexa137]

how do you spy on your boyfriend without him catching you or finding out? i need some strategies--i dont have any proof at all just curious why my man wants time apart,hes gone 5-6 hours a day but still comes home to me! also i have his cell phone bill and was wondering if anyone knows how to look through it or open it without him knowing! i tried last month to slice it and then glue it back together and then ironed it with a towel but it got really thick and you could tell!

[Pink Amulet]

I am shocked reading this.

 

I can't believe this actually goes on?!?!

 

Here is an idea, why don't you ask him!!??

 

If you don't believe his response save yourself (and him) a lot of trouble and heartbreak, stop this ridiculous charade, and end the realtionship.

[alexa137]

like if any guy gets asked they would actually confess to cheating????ive asked and he says theres no one else--just needs time apart before we get back together?-to me doesnt make sense---because we act like we are still together except for the part of going places together--still live together til april and sleep in the same bed and h ave sex everyday!

[princessa]

Well.. First off I don't advocate spying...But if you're going to be evil, stick the envelope in the freezer for a few hours, then gently slide a knife across the glued up part.. you will be able to open it without ripping the paper and reseal it easily when youre done

[serial muse]

alexa, i went back and read your previous posts. didn't you make a huge point of saying to your guy that you wouldn't snoop through his cell phone bills again??? wasn't that the thing that initially triggered him saying he needed space?

 

it may well be that he's cheating, or not - but at this point your relationship is already self-destructing, and you can't fix what's wrong by spying. i understand that you really want to know the truth, but the bottom line is you already know what you need to know - he wants space, for whatever reason, and that is really not working for you.

 

think of all the energy you've expended trying to spy on him, write him cards and poems, beg him, making one or the other of you sleep on the couch in misery, etc. etc. but you clearly aren't at all happy in this relationship. maybe it's time to just let it go?

[alphamale]

also i have his cell phone bill and was wondering if anyone knows how to look through it or open it without him knowing! i tried last month to slice it and then glue it back together and then ironed it with a towel but it got really thick and you could tell!

next time leave out the starch

[Moose]

You don't have a, "relationship".........you have a prison....

[Art_Critic]

There is a spray that turns the white paper clear..

Then after you read it you blow on it and the stuff evaporates leaving the paper go back to white.

 

I don't remember the name of it but you should be able to google it.

 

You can also use a chemical that evaporates quickly that won't smear the ink..

 

At work here we have a film cleaner that works but it can smear the ink.. I have used the cleaner before removing stickers on paper and it makes the paper clear till it evaporates

[a4a]

I am not sure but I think opening other peoples mail is a crime

 

But there are a variety of ways to open that bill.......

 

steam, freezer, various glue removers...... you can also just print out a new one on your computer if you are handy..... (this is one of my favorites)

 

Scan it then replicate it on another envelope. Even the postmark comes out pretty darn good :lmao:

 

Not that I have ever done such a thing!

[alphamale]

I am not sure but I think opening other peoples mail is a crime :lmao:

It is a crime....a federal crime.

[a4a]

It is a crime....a federal crime.

 

Well as I understand it the federal prisons are kinda posh.....

 

So it might be worth the risk.

[alexa137]

i know ive tried everything i can but it makes no sense! i thought things were changing sun night since we were actually doing things we used to do and not ignoring each other--and he slept in the bed with me all night and monday after work his quote to me was "when we move out of here, take time apart, then get back together and get a house i'm getting a great dane dog" that realy confused me! i started crying awhile later and he asked whats wrong and i told him that last night was the first night in 5 weeks i was actually happy--he told me to calm down and that he loves me and we will get back together---so what does the time apart mean? last night we started arguing because he didnt come home til 10:30pm and i asked him why do you feel like you haveto be out everday from 4-10 or so? he said i just do--i also asked him if he was interested in someone else and he said no and sighed- that i always start this bull**** late at night--well thats the only time i see him! i just want to know whats going on is that so wrong! i have stressed for 5 weeks, lost 20 lbs and go to therapy andi have changed and hes noticed--so the last thinghe said was you keep asking me the same question and i keep giving you th same answer--what the hell is the time apart gonna prove or solve???/ i just dont get it and he doesnt explain--and the worst part is he is still here--and if i tell him to get out hes get really mad! crazy huh?

[alphamale]

Well as I understand it the federal prisons are kinda posh..... So it might be worth the risk.

maybe scooter libby will be your cell-mate A4A

[whichwayisup]

Just tell him how you feel, communicate with the guy! See how he reacts. Tell him that your gut is telling you something isn't right...

[alexa137]

that doesnt work! ive tried and tried--like last night i even told him we dont communicate! i talk more than him--but i just said forget it! i wont bother you anymore telling you how i feel because it just ends up an argument and him getting pissed off! but you can talk with getting mad and yelling! i just tried to tell him that when he leaves all day it makes me feel like i have some kind of disease or something_ and im scared to ask what he does all those hours other than chill with his family! i mean he spent alot of time with them when things were ok between us-but he used to come in and out now he doesnt! and i thought that was the time apart he wanted! seems like its not! guess the real test will be next weekend when i move into my new apartment--im hoping fri! the sonner the better i am going insane with him here--i just want to throw all his stuff and tell him to get the ----out!

[EnigmasMuse]

Sounds like you two might just be better off without each other.

[alexa137]

thats the thing--i dont think we can be apart--because he was supposed to move out two weeks ago and never did--and last weekend when i got upset and said you want me to hate you so you dont feel guilty about leaving me and i would leave you--wow he was upset--said it wasnt true--just tryinh to figure this all out--he started packing sat and the bags sat there for 3 days until i asked are you gonna stay here til i move next weekend and he said probably and i told him i didnt like trash bags sitting in the hallway to move them--well then i unpacked his clothes and put them back in the dresser--he didnt say anything--he says its too hard to leave-cant you tell--well then just give me a second chance--but i am seriously ready to give up--too many days of crying and being depressed and then thinking things were getting better sun and mon--now its back to the way it was the past 5 weeks! but i really think the real test will be when he moves to his dads and i move to my apartment--the only bad thing its in the same apartment complex 50 feet away--and thats where we meet because i lived there before!

[eraforevermore]

Wht do you spy,thats what you should ask yourself.I have seen so many threads and posts about spyin' on your spouce,I dont get it.When you mistrust it breads mistrust.