loquaciousl Posted March 13, 2007 Posted March 13, 2007 So I've met this guy who seems to be a great catch; employed, funny, honest, straightforward, and handsome. We went out once and have talked on the phone quite a bit since our date....it seems to be evolving nicely. Last night we were chatting about relationships and our perceptions of them and are both cautiously getting to know each other as we've rushed into things before. He seems like a wonderful person. The quandry, though, is this, we were talking about kids and whether or not we want them. (I'm 28 and he is 33). I know I do want them eventually (I have none) and he says that he's "never had the urge to have them" and doesn't really think he wants them. He said he wanted me to know this because it has been a deal breaker in the past for girls he's dated. Now the question is, do I sign him off knowing that he may never want children knowing that's something I might want? This is a new thing and I dig him. Part of me thinks it's silly to think about kids now because everything is new, and part of me thinks it's something to keep in mind. What should I do?
Lauriebell82 Posted March 13, 2007 Posted March 13, 2007 sounds like he doesnt want to have kids..break it off. u want different things, good thing u realized it after the first date and not a year or two down the road when ur thinking about marriage. even if he does realize down the road that that is something he wants, is it worth the risk that he wont realize it? if having kids is something u really wont, please dont compromise ur dream for some dude. there are lots of other fish in the sea, esp. ones who do want a family someday. if he is 33 i think that is old enough to realize if he wants to children or not, and it pretty much sounds like he doesnt. get out now, before u really start to fall for him.
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