SadrBtWizr Posted March 13, 2007 Posted March 13, 2007 This is more of an opinion/curiosity question, rather than a personal matter. I've been working with Bounty Hunters, former Military Intelligence people, Internet Security folks, and just plain snoopy people... So, how do you go about spying on your husband/wife/etc. if you suspect they are cheating on you? Or do you? And if you do, under what conditions?
Rooster_DAR Posted March 15, 2007 Posted March 15, 2007 I advocate spying but only under certain circustances. If you have a gut feeling coupled with inconsistent behaviour, then you should start keeping an eye open. First thing I would do is ask if everything is okay, but don't keep pestering them if they don't give you any answers. Cheaters have trademarks, they always stumble and make a mistake somewhere along the way. (Gather evidence but don't get caught or ask questions) Cellphone hiding, text messaging, and dropped phone calls are a big one. Cheaters are evolving so now they are using prepaid cards, watch out for these things. You don't have to snoop too much to find enough to move your investigation further along. For me, it started with a feeling that something wasn't right, and a sort of emotional distancing with my partner. Then the biggest flag was cellphone calls being hidden and massive text messaging. Cheaters will die before they give up their secret, and will continue a relationship with you until they have ended their confusion with a final decision, and that puts you at risk physically and emotionally. Besides, if my S/O looked through a few of my items because I was acting out of kilt, I would not be that upset about it (unless they kept doing it when clearly there was no reason). If you're not guilty, you have nothing to hide right? Watch for changes in behaviour (this is a big one), and changes in eating and dressing. After all of this seems to mount up, then I think you have a good reason to find out what's up. In the end, your gut feeling is almost always right so trust it. Cheers!
Greggie Posted March 16, 2007 Posted March 16, 2007 A lot of infidelities that happen are electronically initiated (by e-mails and text messages). So, yes, the cell phone first: get the bill and check the in and out calls. Most of the time, check the computer use. Too much e-mail activities and at times when everybody is asleep. Tracks are left in the computer after every internet use. But I cannot tell you here because cheaters will only become even more savvy.
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