trulycute Posted March 13, 2007 Posted March 13, 2007 my BF of 3 mths texts me everyday and use to call me alot but the past 2 wks or so he still texts everyday but only calls a couple of times a week....whenever i call him which is a couple times a week he always answers and seems pleased to hear from me.... is calling all that important if he's maintaining contact through texting? what is everyones ideas on texting in general? we have a long distance relationship (1 hr away) and i love the texts but sometimes i really wished he'd call more (i have told him that i love his phone calls and hearing his voice and when he does call i'm very appreciative).....we only see each other on the wknds and sometimes during the week if a special day (valentines day for example) should fall on a weekday..... i've been told i should just be happy with things as they are and go with the flow....i know its best when it's his idea to call and he's not being forced to....
whichwayisup Posted March 13, 2007 Posted March 13, 2007 I am so glad when I was younger there wasn't text messaging. I loved the late night calls, sneaking off into my room with the phone, being on for hours, being yelled at by my folks to get off the phone! LOL. Seems most teens these days, even people in their 20's use email, IMing, etc, way too much. It takes away that extra personal bit that you don't get online.
Author trulycute Posted March 13, 2007 Author Posted March 13, 2007 i remember those times too!.....i still love the late night talks on the phone and sometimes they do happen...lol... hearing the voice of someone you love when you can't be physically with them is a wonderful feeling and nothing even comes close to it.....
kribby Posted March 13, 2007 Posted March 13, 2007 Hmm... he is younger than you right? Younger folks tend to text like crazy... okay that is a gross generalization... but honestly, it is sooo true in my case and with my friends. Even now, I text far more than talk on the phone. I think you should definitely go with the flow. Can you imagine actually doing the annoying thing-- setting up a daily conversational time... and then instead of the cool anticipation of the phone call and the perfect vocal connection and exchange you end up with overly long pauses and ummmm uhhhhhhh and dead silence... and even worse.... It could progress into you getting these doubts as to if you truly have a connection. I think if you truly crave the vocal, you should do what you are doing now-- call him. It is interesting to me in relationships (all kinds of relationships brother/sister mother/father/child friend/friend and etc) you have to figure out how the people express love, and how they communcate. If he thinks he is communicating enough-- and he thinks he is dotting the i's and crossing the t's... ultimately it is up to you to either 1. accept what he offers and be happy... or 2. Ask him to modify his communcation style a bit. Of course there shouldn't be an ultimatum or anything, rather a willingness to meet your needs. Personally, I think you should just accept the texting as communication and call when you want to hear his voice. But wait, I already said that. I should have stopped typing earlier.
Lauriebell82 Posted March 13, 2007 Posted March 13, 2007 me and my bf are in a LDR (hour 1/2 away) and we spend the weekend together. during the week we usually send text messages during the day and then either he calls me or i call him around 9:30 or 10 at night. we have to have sort of a schedule because we both have very busy schedules during the week. i love when he sends me sweet text messages, like in the morning he'll send me a text message saying "good morning baby" (which i love!) i really love talking to him every night though. no technology compares to the sound of his voice. i suggest u talk to ur bf about this. not in the sense that u tell him he has to start calling u more, but maybe agree to just talk on the phone every night. its nice to be able to talk about ur day with someone. guys (nowadays) tend to think that texting is the same as calling gf and it doesnt compare. communication is soooooo important in a relationship, so tell ur bf that u'd like to talk to him on the phone everynight before u go to bed, because u like to hear his voice and have him be on ur mind as u fall asleep. no man can resist that beilive me.
BlueEyedSarah Posted March 13, 2007 Posted March 13, 2007 my BF of 3 mths texts me everyday and use to call me alot but the past 2 wks or so he still texts everyday but only calls a couple of times a week....whenever i call him which is a couple times a week he always answers and seems pleased to hear from me.... is calling all that important if he's maintaining contact through texting? what is everyones ideas on texting in general? we have a long distance relationship (1 hr away) and i love the texts but sometimes i really wished he'd call more (i have told him that i love his phone calls and hearing his voice and when he does call i'm very appreciative).....we only see each other on the wknds and sometimes during the week if a special day (valentines day for example) should fall on a weekday..... i've been told i should just be happy with things as they are and go with the flow....i know its best when it's his idea to call and he's not being forced to.... With technolegy now days people seem to prefere texting and IMing instead of calling. Its cheaper to text and free to IM/email.
Art_Critic Posted March 13, 2007 Posted March 13, 2007 is calling all that important if he's maintaining contact through texting? Of course it is important.. A relationship takes one on one communication , by just texting you are not conveying your tone and the words and your thoughts properly.. Personally I would want the personal call and tell him to stop texting you unless it is something simple... Like Good Morning.. I ahve done the texting thing with a girl before .. We would send texts all day.. but we always talked at night and it was an LDR..
Author trulycute Posted March 13, 2007 Author Posted March 13, 2007 b/c of our schedules we can't always talk on the phone everyday....he works evenings (4pm-2am) during the week and i work all shifts including night shifts so i'm usually sleeping when he's awake before work and then i don't like to call him when i know he's probably sleeping after working all night too....so its a little complicated, and that's why its just best if he calls me the majority of the time....if when he does text and i tell him when a good time is to call then he will but its so much nicer when he does it on his own.... i have told him i would love it if he called me more b/c i love hearing his voice and he said "ok, i'm sorry and i do text you everyday from work if i don't have the time to call before i go to work" (it would also be long distance on his cell phone to call me from work).....i will usually call a couple times a week though.... i agree with one of the posters, that if i get the strong desire to call him then i should just do it!......its not like i call everyday and all the time....and if he's busy then i just let him go and then he calls me later on when he's free....he tells me he thinks about me all the time but just doesn't make the move to do something about it or doesn't have enough time (i've been told this is normal male behaviour at times).... if after a couple of days we talk, he always says "hey stranger" so its almost like he knows that there hasn't been enough contact.....its funny too b/c over the wknd he addressed that in 3 months time we need to reevalute our relationship b/c something needs to change (someone needs to move) for us to take this relationship to the next level (more serious, more permanent) b/c we don't see enough of each other right now and we both agreed that after 6 mths of serious dating we would know whether we see a real future there... sometimes the easiest things in life can be made to be so compicated...lol....
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