hugznkisses21 Posted March 12, 2007 Posted March 12, 2007 update to my old thread.... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t113993/ My bf recently - due to the facebook myspace thingy - came across and old friend and girl he dated back a long time ago in highschool...she joined thei graduating class group page and he added her as his frriend - this is dont mind at all - what bothers me is she is now a world renouned famous PORN STAR and looks exacally like the girls he loves to fantises about or look at - now granted i dont care if he looks - i know that guys are visual, but i hurts me that he is now in contact with someone who embodies that - and they have a history of "whatever" in highschool...its like my self confidence plummits and i feel i can not compare - can someone offer me some advice - i dont want to tell him who he can be friends with or not so im not saying anything to him - he says he isnt attracted to her cause she looks fake and nothing like she did when he dated her (she was shy and smart and quiet in school) but i cant help but feel inadequate....i almost want to just tell him im having trouble with my confidence i maybe need to get out...cause i dont want to start a fight or tell him who to talk to or be friends with im not like that...
GodofNietzsche Posted March 12, 2007 Posted March 12, 2007 The only advice that can help you in this situation is advice that will improve your self-esteem and rid you of your insecurities. Unless this guy is talking to this girl (by facebook, cell, aim, whatever), then this is not a relationship issue. This is an issue of who you are as a person, and naturally, its being (or has the potential to be) reflected in your relationship. First of all, I would say stop taking facebook so seriously. I actually think its one of the worst inventions of all times (in terms of the way it shapes human interatctions). Secondly, let go of your insecurities. Realize that these feelings you have could potentially ruin your relationship, and become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Author hugznkisses21 Posted March 12, 2007 Author Posted March 12, 2007 he has talked to her via message wall just making small talk about random things like weather cause she is in LA
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