Trying to Get A Life

[brandie32]

So I was engaged 2 times and broke up with the 3rd befor he asked. I was not truely happy with the first he was abusive, so good I didn't marry. But the last 2 I did really care about but I walked away?? So I am dating now and have been on some really bad dates. I meet guys seem nice but then they just flake out:

One guyed started cring, when he found out my parents had passed-1st date.

another was upset I made more money than he did ???

and so on.... My sister blames the guys but I blame myself, after all I am the common denominator.

I just started dating this guy who super nice. We go to the finest places, what I enjoy doing. He knows everyone, drinks the same wine as I, and he is so polite!! He hold my jacket, stands up when I stand up, opens doors, and listens to every word I say. He is a really nice guy and we have been out 3times over a 3 week period- I work a lot so that is a lot for me. No I have not slept with him, big mistake re. last thread.

The problem is no spark, not really that in to him?? What is wrong with me? I just do not get it, I really want to get married have children but I am thinking that it just will not happen, am I just unable to commit?please say it does not have anything to do with my parents...ugggh

[kypepeo]

It doesn't sound like you are the problem. Maybe you are too anxious to meet the right guy but your reasons for breaking it up with the others were valid so your sister is right, it's them, not you.

 

A good man is hard to find and like they say, you might have to kiss a lot of frogs before you meet that prince. Take your time, be picky coz after all, this is the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with. If there's no chemistry, your not feeling him the way you should then leave him. Do you really want to spend forever with someone who doesn't make your heart skip a beat?

 

Dating is all about looking around and seeing what's good for you. Don't settle for just anyone because you want to be with someone or because you are scared that you have a committment problem. How can you if you have been engaged twice?

[DanielMadr]

It doesn't sound like you are the problem. Maybe you are too anxious to meet the right guy but your reasons for breaking it up with the others were valid so your sister is right, it's them, not you.

 

A good man is hard to find and like they say, you might have to kiss a lot of frogs before you meet that prince. Take your time, be picky coz after all, this is the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with. If there's no chemistry, your not feeling him the way you should then leave him. Do you really want to spend forever with someone who doesn't make your heart skip a beat?

 

Dating is all about looking around and seeing what's good for you. Don't settle for just anyone because you want to be with someone or because you are scared that you have a committment problem. How can you if you have been engaged twice?

 

It is always them init? Could be. But I believe unless you give yourself the hard look you are just lost in the woods. Stop walking in circles, look at yourself and dont be scared what you will see, dont blame anybody, dont self-pity just be straight with yourself. You will see much better then.