youngandhopeful Posted March 12, 2007 Posted March 12, 2007 I have been going out with my girlfriend for 5 months now and the sex is great but for the last few months we seem to have less and less sex. I don't consider myself to have a high sex drive, but my girlfriend has a low one. I know that we both enjoy it alot when we have sex, but she rarely wants to. At first i did put it down to me, but i know now that it isn't. It isn't due to us having a poor relationship either. What im trying to say is, has anyone else been in this situation. BTW i dont mean i want sex every night, but we go weeks without sex, and i personally get frustrated. I would never cheat on her, as it isn't that important to me. I would like some girls opinions on this please. We have talked about it, and we just ended up agreeing that we could do nothing about it. If anyone has any input i would be very greatful. Thanks in advance
Bree Posted March 13, 2007 Posted March 13, 2007 Do you do anything to turn her on. Are your more of the giver or the taker? Try giving her a massage and giving lil kisses down her back. Take time and attend to her needs. Not saying that your don't, but maybe you need to seduce her more, maybe like back in the day when you were trying to win her over. hope that helps
Author youngandhopeful Posted August 13, 2007 Author Posted August 13, 2007 sorry to drag up an old thread but the problem is still there. I am definitly more of a giver than a taker. The reason i want her to be more into sex is because when she is up for it the sex is brilliant, for both of us. Its just she generally doesn't want to. The problem i think is due to us having little "quiet" time of our own. The house usually has others in, so we can't really have sex. But the times we have the house to ourselves, i would like to have sex, but understandably my girlfriend might not be in the mood. It a difficult situation really, i think im just going to have to get used to it
Jesika Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 I can totally understand what you are going through. I am going through the same thing. That is why I found this site. I haven't had sex for a month now and I am at my "shutting down" stage. We had agreed to at least have sex once a week........that was me compromising. I have a high"drive" and he doesn't. I have thrown a fit, yelled and screamed, cried, begged,threatened to move out, you name it I have tried it. Now I am at a point that if it doesn't change, I want to move out in a place of my own to see if maybe that will stir something in him. I meet his needs, but other then paying half the bills and laughing together, the intimacy is extremely lacking, and I am not getting MY needs. I don't masterbate at all due to some childhood trama..........just doesn't feel good, so I have no other sexual release, other then cheating........and I don't want it to come to that. I offered to maybe try an "open" relationship so the burden wouldn't be all on him, but I got no responce at all. I feel your pain, and honestly I don't think I would be able to "get used to it". That is the problem that brought me here..........trust me you are not alone in this. Just knowing that helps me a little. Sorry I couldn't be more help......I am in the same boat.
Krytellan Posted August 14, 2007 Posted August 14, 2007 Hi youngandhopeful, I had a similar thread in June that may be of some use to you. I got great input from people here at LS. Mine involved the effect of stress, well, according to the gf anyway. Our relationship ended about 3 weeks after the thread started and the reasons were around that very topic. It's tough to accept, but it won't change. You will either get tired enough of it to break up or you will likely continue to be sexually frustrated as long as you're together. What you're experiencing is her natural drive. Wish I had good news for you.
Author youngandhopeful Posted October 22, 2007 Author Posted October 22, 2007 Just to revived a very old thread, to let you gus/gals know that the situation has strangely sorted its self out. Im not sure if my GF was stressed for some reason, but after a while she started to be more sexually experimental (i dont me whips and chains lol) but its been fantastic. I think to say it will never change is wrong, although i imagine it won't always be the same as my case. Anyway, we are both at Uni now, seperate ones, so its kind of tough. Were still strong together, and we try an see each other when we can. And of course, "make up for lost time" ;P
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