am1984 Posted March 12, 2007 Posted March 12, 2007 So I've been dating my gf now for a year and a half. We're both 23. We had some time apart last summer and ended up breaking up for a few day period when we ended up back in the same place. We had dated for about 10 months at this point. When we got back together a couple days after the breakup she ended up telling me how she loves me, how she wants to get married, how she definately wants a future together. She never did give any explaination as to why she broke up with me then. The closest I got to an explaination was she never expected to get into such a serious relationship, how she almost felt like she was giving up her independence. It's been about 7 months since then, and we've only discussed that week once since then. She still has no idea why she did what she did. Everything has been absolutely amazing since then, but for some reason I still occasionally think about that week and find myself trying to find some why to explain what she did. Can anyone offer any insight? What could possibily have been going through her mind?
Lauriebell82 Posted March 12, 2007 Posted March 12, 2007 maybe its like what she said..she didnt expect to get involved in such a serious relationship and she was confused. if ur really curious about this u could talk to her if its bothering u THAT much. sounds like everything is fine with u guys now, so be glad she came to her senses and wanted to get back together with u. it sounds to me like ur making too much out of this, and that a part of u thinks that since she broke up with u maybe she doesnt love u like u thought. thats probably not true, i'm sure she just freaked out a little bit when she realized how serious her feelings were. a guy i dated did that to me one time, except we never did get back together he just told me he didnt want to be in a serious relationship. my advice is to talk to her if u really feel the need, but ur just driving urself nuts trying to come up with a conclusion for her behavior. just be glad u guys are together now and that everything is great. focus on ur future together.
amaysngrace Posted March 12, 2007 Posted March 12, 2007 I'll take my best guess. She was getting too close to you and so she needed to remove herself from the situation because she was too close emotionally to get an objective view of the relationship. So she backed off and did a little thinking. She uninvolved herself. But after taking the time to sort things through she decided that what she does want is having you in her life. This is only a guess. But if there's any truth to it then you'll know that when things get tough she may need time to herself occasionally to help her deal with whatever she's being faced with.
brandie32 Posted March 12, 2007 Posted March 12, 2007 Sound like you and your girlfriend hit a ruff patch. Try not to think so much about that week. If all is well now and you are really enjoying being with her, enjoy it. Try not to be so uptight, move on tell her that you care about her try always to keep comunication open and honest. When you are dating emotions get confusing and people do strange things. If you can get thru the crazy dating games and emotional ups & downs, and you are still together, happy, and more in love than the day you met well it was all worth it! You are both young have fun love each other and learn to forgive and move on. Good Luck
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