Pando Posted March 12, 2007 Posted March 12, 2007 Hello everyone, I stumbled upon these forums a while back and it seems to me that I get a little bit smarter every time I read them. I guess it's getting the hang of relationships when you realize you how little you know. I wanted to make a first post and thought I'd combine it with a situation I wouldn't mind getting help with. ...and now for the issue at hand. The classic girlfriend vs female friends scenario. The thing is my girlfriend is sometimes of the jealous type, not to an unhealthy amount, but still. It's usually not a big deal in our relationship, but when it comes to female friends it is. She is ok with me spending time with the female friends I have had since before we met, but if it is someone whom I've known for less time than I've known her, then it's a problem. I'm studying Spanish and it really is of help to me to meet people who speak Spanish as their first language. I usually meet up weekly with this girl from South America and sometimes her friends. A while back she started talking about a friend of her that would love to meet me to practice her English that I could practice Spanish with. I agreed it would be good for both of us, but when I spoke to my girlfriend about it she didn't like the idea one bit. I tried to explain the situation and I even invited her to come along, but she didn't want to. So I had to pull a rain check on the grounds that I was too busy at that moment (which was a half truth). I kind of understand how she feels, I can think of a lot of things I would like her to do rather than have coffees male strangers. Now the problem is, that my South American friend is leaving for a three month holiday and wanted me to keep practicing with her friend during the time when she was gone. I haven't spoken to my girlfriend about this yet, but I have a feeling how she'll react. Now I don't know what to do. I would like to meet this other girl, but I know that would upset my girlfriend. Still I know I have every "right" to meet this girl and my girlfriend should deal with with her jealousy, I don't need to hear that. The reason why it is a problem is that I just don't see it worth hurting someone else's feelings for it. Any suggestions of how to deal with the situation so that everyone is happy?
magichands Posted March 12, 2007 Posted March 12, 2007 I think she can easily find someone else to practice her English with. You are making way too big a deal out of this.
Author Pando Posted March 12, 2007 Author Posted March 12, 2007 I think she can easily find someone else to practice her English with. You are making way too big a deal out of this.Yeah, you're probably right. I just wanted to hear an objective opinion though. I'm not certain, but I think the other girl is in a relationship too, which makes it even more embarrassing to cancel it on the grounds of mine. edit: I don't live in an English speaking country btw
magichands Posted March 12, 2007 Posted March 12, 2007 edit: I don't live in an English speaking country btw Then it is even more of a case of you going out of your way to help her. Your primary responsibility is to your relationship - do you have so much time that you can afford to play around with other girls? I'm just saying.
Author Pando Posted March 12, 2007 Author Posted March 12, 2007 Then it is even more of a case of you going out of your way to help her. Your primary responsibility is to your relationship - do you have so much time that you can afford to play around with other girls? I'm just saying. I agree my relationship is my primary responsibility but I'm not "playing around" with other girls. It's strictly language training and it's only a problem because that other person is of the opposite sex.
magichands Posted March 12, 2007 Posted March 12, 2007 It's strictly language training and Sure sounds like hard work.
Author Pando Posted March 12, 2007 Author Posted March 12, 2007 Sure sounds like hard work. You don't see the value of actually using the language you're studying?
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