reenum Posted March 12, 2007 Posted March 12, 2007 Hello everyone. I saw this forum, and thought that it is the best place for me to ask the following. A little background first. I'm 28, have only had one relationship (which ended horribly), and am generally clueless about the ways of females. I have a question about something that happened to me last night. A girl I volunteer with at a local non-profit invited me to hang out with friends and go out for dancing. The dancing didn't pan out, so we ended up going back to her friend's place to hang out with everyone. While we were hanging out, I tried to be active in the conversations and had a good time. Anyways, we left around midnight. She asked me to drive her home. When we got there, she asked if I was tired and if I wanted to come up. Her exact words were, "Come up if you want. I'll be bored otherwise." So, we went up to her place and ended up talking for a couple of hours. We talked about her family, school, etc. Quick note: I'm a graduate of this university, and she's currently a senior. I got the idea she might have wanted to make out, but her body language was confused. She sat a bit away from me, and we didn't really talk about anything sexy, except when she said she liked my belly. She was very friendly, and was laughing a lot. We joked around a bit too, and she seemed into it. I'm not sure if she was interested, or if I should have made a move. It just didn't feel right. I'm worried that she might have been expecting some action and that I've ended up alienating her now. Thanks for the help.
SassyNClassy Posted March 12, 2007 Posted March 12, 2007 I'm not sure if she was interested, or if I should have made a move. It just didn't feel right. I'm worried that she might have been expecting some action and that I've ended up alienating her now. She wouldn't have asked you up if she wasn't interested. She was probably expecting at least a kiss, so she might be wondering why you didn't try. At the same time it shows that you have some restraint and respect her. What you need to do is call he up within the next couple of days and ask her out on a proper date...then if you're still feeling it maybe make a move at the end of the night.
Pando Posted March 12, 2007 Posted March 12, 2007 I generally agree with SassyNClassy, she wouldn't have asked you up if she wasn't interested. My guess is that she just didn't want to make the first move and thought you would, especially after she invited you in. I don't think you alienated her in any way, you just got to know her a bit better, if you are uncertain to make a move in the future, disguise it in humor to poke the ice. That way you don't have to be scared of making a fool of yourself, but still know how she feels. Or perhaps if you (/two) don't feel any romantic attraction for her/each other, it might be a friendship in the making!
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