GuestDD97230 Posted March 11, 2007 Posted March 11, 2007 I have been dating my girlfriend for a year and a half now, things had been really amazing for us until about month or two ago. In September I learned that she suffered from mild/moderate depression, that occurs about once a month. Things were beginning to become okay with this, working with her, I have been by her side through this. Up to this moment we had been planning on our college destinations for the following year, trying to give our relationship a chance to continue past high school. Now, it seems that she is trying to distance herself from me, so that it would be easier for her to exit our relationship. Her reasoning for doing so is generally that she wants to start college with a clean slate, going to college is for her. But seeing as both of us have been accepted to the same colleges, this doesn't make sense. Next she claims that she is a commitmentphobe, and that she doesn't believe that she can really trust me, and the fact of going to the same college scares her. Even through I have made it clear that by going to the same college just gives us a chance to see what COULD happen. Lately she hasn't been letting me be there for her when she is depressed, and I don't know the importance of this other than that I think she is trying to tell herself that I can't be trusted. On March 29, we hear back from the last of our schools. UC Berkeley, UCLA, and UC Irvine. She has given me a general ultimatum in our last conversation. That as this deadline gets closer, she feels that its getting harder for her to stay with me. I need help with what I should do, how should I go about assessing my situation. -DD97230
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