lpnCarol2006 Posted March 11, 2007 Posted March 11, 2007 Hello Everyone, First let me say if this is a repeat of my original post, I'm sorry. I couldn't find it and assume it did not post. I am new here and really need some advice. Here's my story. My fiancee and I broke up a couple of weeks ago. We have been living together for 8 years and have 1 child together. About two weeks after valentines day I caught him with another woman. He didn't come home from work one night so I went to the bar where he likes to play pool. I found my car but no fiancee. I waited and he drove up with some woman. A scuffle ensued and she ran me over with her car. He came home that night and appologized swearing she only gave him a ride back from another bar. A few nights later he said I was right, if he loved me as much as he said he did how could he let her run me over. He said he needed time to think things through. I blew it off. That week he decided he needed to have a place to think and that things would still be the same he would be home 90% of the time. He said he loved me and we even made love. I cried and carried on and he called all day from work swearing he weren't breaking up. I again caught him at the bar with this woman, she is the bartneder there. This time he moved in with friends. He didn't leave me a number or anything. when he didn't come home from work I took down some of his stuff. He then left me a note saying "I guess it is over now." Still he said he loved me. Then, one night I waited outside the bar and caught them kissing. I tried to follow them, they ditched me. The next day I talked to the bartender and she said he told her that for him it had been over for a while. Could have fooled me, on valentines day he left a rose and a card in my car that would make someone else retch at how sweet it was. The day I talked to the bartender he called and said he didn't love me anymore only as a friend. I cried and begged, to no avail. I heard from friends he is telling everyone we broke up and he has been with the bartender for longer than I knew. So, I stopped calling and causing trouble as he asked. He has called several times since but never says he loves me only "I was thinking of you" and "give me a little time". I have to tell you that up until all this happened I thought things were great. None of our friends can believe this, they were jealous of or relationship, they thought we had something special too. Will he come back what do I do. On top of all this I have kids that are really missing "Daddy". Please help
thecount Posted March 11, 2007 Posted March 11, 2007 Give him his time, and give him is space. In the mean time take care of yourself and those kids. DO NOT! answer his calls whenever he decides to call you, let him wait for you to call him back, I know this is going to be hard because you love him, but you have to do this for yourself. Deception is a terrible thing, take it from me. I was too quick to take my ex back so many times like a fool. She was good for maybe a week or so, and right back to being a ... well, let me not say the word, it might offend someone. If he decides to come back, DO NOT let him off the hook so easy. Let him prove his love and loyalty to you, and make sure he proves it beyond comprehension, or he would walk all over you. I do have a question though. Why did you go looking for him at the bar that night?
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