What does a girl want a guy to do?

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Well its like 1:17 in the morning. My girlfriend and i were on the phone about an hour earlier. Here's a summary of her. She is a really depressed person, always. She feels that no one loves her, her parents don't respect her, and that she's lonely and her friends don't need her. In a way all of these things are true. I love her and sometimes she has quick doubts about it but i prove it by dropping watever im doing to take her away from her depression. At home, she's like cinderella and she does all the cleaning and babysits all the time and she's a really good daughter but she's always getting yelled at for no reason. She doesn't have time to go do what she wants to do such as hang out with friends or get a job because right when she comes home she has to pick up her little brother from work and babysit him until 6, which gives her no time to do anything else (by the way, she gets out of school at 12 and picks him up at 2). And lastly, her friends are always too busy for her. however, i think this last reason is because their adults now and they don't have time to hang out and stuff. So, to get her away from her daily stress i try to take her out and basically, whenever she has time inbetween her schedules, i see her during those times. She loves me to death, she really does. I can't prove it, but just assume that im her everything. Now here's the problem. When she tells me about her issues i use to give her the message that she needs to either deal with it or change it. She told me that she can't do either, 1) because she's afraid of being alone in the end and 2) she has no self-confidence. And she began to complained that i dont understand. So i asked her one day what i could say to help her in those situations if it ever came about again. She told me to comfort her and help her instead of tell her what she needs to do. So i say i'll try it and i do for a couple months. It makes her feel better and it does help her try harder. So, at the moment im dropping things to be with her, comforting her when she's sad and taking her away from her family problems at home. Yet, its taking its toll on me. I told her and she says i dont need to do that, but when i don't, she gets depressed and frustrated. I love her to death and she's nothing without me, but i have a life of my own and i do need to do things to benefit us later rather than now, but she is lonely without me stuck at home while im out doing my own things. my question is, should i keep trying to comfort her, do my own thing first, or find a variation inbetween? I'll take any advice into consideration.

 

I dont know if this will help at all but she doesn't like doing things by herself, like going out or eating out or anything. She went through an amount of verbal abuse with her parents. And another reason why her friends arent there is because she got kicked out of her grandma's house for a month or so and lost contact with all her good friends who might have moved on.

 

Thanks:o