Guest Posted March 11, 2007 Posted March 11, 2007 last year, this was this guy who liked me. he was so out of my league: gorgeous and nice and funny. and he wouldn't stop talking about me. at first i wasn't sure how to react, but we became friends and i slowly fell for him. we were going to get together for a movie night at mine, just the two of us around christmas, but we never managed to organise it before he left for a holiday in canada. i meant to make a move when he came back, and there was a party about 2 weeks or so after his return (which was around the start of february), except i found out then that he had a new girlfriend. a friend of mine who is in a band with him talked to him about me and he said that he really did like me but i never gave him any signs, and so he moved on. everyone is telling me that i'm better looking than his new girlfriend, and i get on with him really well. another member of his band is going to tell him how i feel. is there any chance that he would leave his girlfriend for me? am i kidding myself here? have i missed my chance?
Walk Posted March 11, 2007 Posted March 11, 2007 Out of curiousity... do you think it's acceptable for women to go around trying to break couples up? Is that the new code of honor now? I'm not sure I'm up to date on this. So, if this is the case, then I'm completely free to put the moves on a guy who's in a relationship. Which means, if you get in a relationship, I can put the moves on your guy and steal him away from you. And that would be perfectly legit in your book? Usually people behave the way they wish others to behave. If that's your definition of "honor" then I'm more then happy to play by your rules. It sounds like this guy is really hot... I might want him too. I bet I'm a better player then you are, so it wouldn't be too hard to steal him away from you. If you don't feel that's acceptable for me to do to you... then don't do it to others. You blew your chance. You had the opportunity, you blew it. If in the future this guy dumps his gf, then make another go at it... but LEAVE him alone while he's in a relationship. There are other men out there who you will like. Men who aren't in relationships. Treat others as you would like to be treated.
amaysngrace Posted March 11, 2007 Posted March 11, 2007 Out of curiousity... do you think it's acceptable for women to go around trying to break couples up? Is that the new code of honor now? I'm not sure I'm up to date on this. So, if this is the case, then I'm completely free to put the moves on a guy who's in a relationship. Which means, if you get in a relationship, I can put the moves on your guy and steal him away from you. And that would be perfectly legit in your book? Usually people behave the way they wish others to behave. If that's your definition of "honor" then I'm more then happy to play by your rules. It sounds like this guy is really hot... I might want him too. I bet I'm a better player then you are, so it wouldn't be too hard to steal him away from you. If you don't feel that's acceptable for me to do to you... then don't do it to others. You blew your chance. You had the opportunity, you blew it. If in the future this guy dumps his gf, then make another go at it... but LEAVE him alone while he's in a relationship. There are other men out there who you will like. Men who aren't in relationships. Treat others as you would like to be treated. Yeah. What she said. ^^^
Hitman10000 Posted March 11, 2007 Posted March 11, 2007 I have no problems with women trying to steal me away from my girlfriend who I'm so/so with. I do have a problem with women who do that from a girlfriend I really admire. Infact, if it's her friend trying to do that... I will one up this by telling the girlfriend that her friend was trying to do this, but make sure I have a log of the entire thing. I also know women friends will pretend to steal boyfriends to test their loyalty.
norajane Posted March 11, 2007 Posted March 11, 2007 He's no prize if he dumps his girlfriend for you. You'll always have to live with the fear that this hot band dude might meet another groupie next week who is better looking than you and whom he really gets along with, and dump you for her. And you know his band mates will just egg him on and tell him to dump you for this better girl. Karma can be a bitch.
sb129 Posted March 11, 2007 Posted March 11, 2007 Out of curiousity... do you think it's acceptable for women to go around trying to break couples up? Is that the new code of honor now? I'm not sure I'm up to date on this. So, if this is the case, then I'm completely free to put the moves on a guy who's in a relationship. Which means, if you get in a relationship, I can put the moves on your guy and steal him away from you. And that would be perfectly legit in your book? Usually people behave the way they wish others to behave. If that's your definition of "honor" then I'm more then happy to play by your rules. It sounds like this guy is really hot... I might want him too. I bet I'm a better player then you are, so it wouldn't be too hard to steal him away from you. If you don't feel that's acceptable for me to do to you... then don't do it to others. You blew your chance. You had the opportunity, you blew it. If in the future this guy dumps his gf, then make another go at it... but LEAVE him alone while he's in a relationship. There are other men out there who you will like. Men who aren't in relationships. Treat others as you would like to be treated. He's no prize if he dumps his girlfriend for you. You'll always have to live with the fear that this hot band dude might meet another groupie next week who is better looking than you and whom he really gets along with, and dump you for her. And you know his band mates will just egg him on and tell him to dump you for this better girl. Karma can be a bitch. What they said. Who wants to be second choice? Not me. If you have to play mean to get him, you shouldn't be playing.
amaysngrace Posted March 11, 2007 Posted March 11, 2007 I do have a problem with women who do that from a girlfriend I really admire. Infact, if it's her friend trying to do that... I will one up this by telling the girlfriend that her friend was trying to do this About two weekends ago my BFs good friend came down and was hanging out with us. When my BF was away from us his friend kissed me. No tongue. I didn't tell my BF this. I don't like his friend in that way and I don't think his friend likes me in that way but he just had too much to drink. I don't see the point of coming between friends over something that basically means nothing really.
Trialbyfire Posted March 11, 2007 Posted March 11, 2007 If someone can be "stolen" away, there's a problem, whether it's a problem with the relationship or a problem with the "stolee". Move on. The issue is yours alone. If you stoop to this, you've just lowered your own personal level of integrity. If he's ever free again, emote interest with enough force to set off a seismograph. If the guy still doesn't get it, he's probably a tad insensitive...
Hitman10000 Posted March 11, 2007 Posted March 11, 2007 About two weekends ago my BFs good friend came down and was hanging out with us. When my BF was away from us his friend kissed me. No tongue. I didn't tell my BF this. I don't like his friend in that way and I don't think his friend likes me in that way but he just had too much to drink. I don't see the point of coming between friends over something that basically means nothing really. Doesn't sound like much, but if your boyfriend knew, His friend will get a beatdown.
stace79 Posted March 13, 2007 Posted March 13, 2007 Thank God for you...I have been trying to say this for weeks..even months now...but have not found words like yours. Girls are so scandalous sometimes and I really hate it. Guys are hard enough to work with, much less when you have women stabbing you in the back. Come on, ladies, act with some dignity. Out of curiousity... do you think it's acceptable for women to go around trying to break couples up? Is that the new code of honor now? I'm not sure I'm up to date on this. So, if this is the case, then I'm completely free to put the moves on a guy who's in a relationship. Which means, if you get in a relationship, I can put the moves on your guy and steal him away from you. And that would be perfectly legit in your book? Usually people behave the way they wish others to behave. If that's your definition of "honor" then I'm more then happy to play by your rules. It sounds like this guy is really hot... I might want him too. I bet I'm a better player then you are, so it wouldn't be too hard to steal him away from you. If you don't feel that's acceptable for me to do to you... then don't do it to others. You blew your chance. You had the opportunity, you blew it. If in the future this guy dumps his gf, then make another go at it... but LEAVE him alone while he's in a relationship. There are other men out there who you will like. Men who aren't in relationships. Treat others as you would like to be treated.
Walk Posted March 14, 2007 Posted March 14, 2007 Thank God for you...I have been trying to say this for weeks..even months now...but have not found words like yours. Girls are so scandalous sometimes and I really hate it. Guys are hard enough to work with, much less when you have women stabbing you in the back. Come on, ladies, act with some dignity. Totally agree. But so many people are trying to project what they want as something the other person will benefit from. When in truth... the person hasn't taken the time or effort to determine what is best for this other person to begin with. They appease their concious by convincing themselves that what they're doing is for the "good" of the other person. Never taking the time to actually understand the other person, or even consider how others might actually feel. They just wanted what they wanted, and to hell with anyone else. No matter how much pain they cause, how much wreckage they leave in their wake... they only see what they want to see. It's a very "Me" oriented society. I want, I want.. gimme, gimme. I blame tv.
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