pricillia Posted March 10, 2007 Posted March 10, 2007 But right now I feel powerless to help someone that is in need of help. I don't want to get into details and I have my own opinion of what is really going on, but what do you guys do when you feel powerless to help someone that needs help. I guess right now all I can do is be supportive and understanding.
Trialbyfire Posted March 11, 2007 Posted March 11, 2007 The only way I can do it is to take the plunge and help that person. If the person won't let me or there's nothing I can do, at least I tried.
magichands Posted March 11, 2007 Posted March 11, 2007 This thread is so deep that I'm a bit worried I won't be able to climb out of it. Maybe I can bounce out?
Pyro Posted March 11, 2007 Posted March 11, 2007 But right now I feel powerless to help someone that is in need of help. I don't want to get into details and I have my own opinion of what is really going on, but what do you guys do when you feel powerless to help someone that needs help. I guess right now all I can do is be supportive and understanding. I think that we all have been there and done that. You are right. All that you can do is to be supportive and understanding for that person.
Author pricillia Posted March 11, 2007 Author Posted March 11, 2007 This thread is so deep that I'm a bit worried I won't be able to climb out of it. Maybe I can bounce out? No it is not deep at all... no need to bounce, you just like the bunny:bunny:
climbergirl Posted March 11, 2007 Posted March 11, 2007 I think that we all have been there and done that. You are right. All that you can do is to be supportive and understanding for that person. Unfortunately that only goes so far......they have to want to be happy. I don't get why a person sees what is bringing them down, but yet, do nothing to change it...........
Pyro Posted March 11, 2007 Posted March 11, 2007 Unfortunately that only goes so far......they have to want to be happy. I don't get why a person sees what is bringing them down, but yet, do nothing to change it........... Thats right. The person has to be willing to change for the better. I think that its because lots of people fear change and the unknown, so they stick with what they have and that being some form of negativity.
Author pricillia Posted March 11, 2007 Author Posted March 11, 2007 Unfortunately that only goes so far......they have to want to be happy. I don't get why a person sees what is bringing them down, but yet, do nothing to change it........... I agree CG to a certian extent, what if what they are doing is based on pressure and a lack of compassion.
Pyro Posted March 11, 2007 Posted March 11, 2007 I agree CG to a certian extent, what if what they are doing is based on pressure and a lack of compassion. Hopefully they realize before its too late that any decision made as a result of negative pressure and lack of compassion can't be anything with positive results.
Author pricillia Posted March 11, 2007 Author Posted March 11, 2007 Hopefully they realize before its too late that any decision made as a result of negative pressure and lack of compassion can't be anything with positive results. I hope so... R. I know this and you know this but I am afriad that the person in said situation is between a rock and a hard place
magichands Posted March 11, 2007 Posted March 11, 2007 I know this and you know this but I am afriad that the person in said situation is between a rock and a hard place If it's a he, then tell him to get his dick out first. Prioritise.
Trialbyfire Posted March 11, 2007 Posted March 11, 2007 I hope so... R. I know this and you know this but I am afriad that the person in said situation is between a rock and a hard place There's always an out. If that person were to focus on the positive, they can get out.
Author pricillia Posted March 11, 2007 Author Posted March 11, 2007 If it's a he, then tell him to get his dick out first. Prioritise. now now magic... be nice
johan Posted March 11, 2007 Posted March 11, 2007 If this thread is about me, let me just say I'm not all that unhappy. A little dissatisfied, but I can't complain. So don't worry so much about me. I'll be fine. I've occasionally wished I could do something that would really help someone. But it's usually not the things you try to do that help. Being available and caring is all anyone can expect. People almost always have to figure out their own problems on their own. Adults do anyway.
Author pricillia Posted March 11, 2007 Author Posted March 11, 2007 If this thread is about me, let me just say I'm not all that unhappy. A little dissatisfied, but I can't complain. So don't worry so much about me. I'll be fine. I've occasionally wished I could do something that would really help someone. But it's usually not the things you try to do that help. Being available and caring is all anyone can expect. People almost always have to figure out their own problems on their own. Adults do anyway. Ok Johan I admit it this post is about you, I was trying to lure you out of the shadows to admit that you are just an unhappy guy, and I tricked you into posting without you even knowing it... ahhhh now you know... damit... that johan...
climbergirl Posted March 11, 2007 Posted March 11, 2007 If this thread is about me, let me just say I'm not all that unhappy. A little dissatisfied, but I can't complain. So don't worry so much about me. I'll be fine. So much for talking about someone behind their back!! I've occasionally wished I could do something that would really help someone. But it's usually not the things you try to do that help. Being available and caring is all anyone can expect. People almost always have to figure out their own problems on their own. Adults do anyway. In my own situation, I'm finding that quote in bold isn't helping, but enabling. This person is stuck in a quagmire of blaming others for his predicament. After all, I'll bet it's easier short term to do this. I can't help anymore. It's bringing me down. All of us should surround ourselves and be attracted by strong, resiliant people. Not problem free, but those who can and want to help themselves. I guess what I'm trying to say, Priscilla, is that your thought and intent is very noble, but there are a few people who revel in pity and denial. You can't help them, unfortunately.
magichands Posted March 11, 2007 Posted March 11, 2007 , let me just say I'm not all that unhappy. A little dissatisfied, but I can't complain. Maybe you should try. To complain, I mean. Sometimes it is good to get things off our chests. Like, are you getting enough satisfaction out of your work? Just curious. Or, is your life becoming a little bit too predictable? There are things that can help. http://www.jonco48.com/blog/anal_20surprise.jpg
climbergirl Posted March 11, 2007 Posted March 11, 2007 I agree CG to a certian extent, what if what they are doing is based on pressure and a lack of compassion. Pricillia-do you mean lack of compassion from others or they lack compassion?
Author pricillia Posted March 11, 2007 Author Posted March 11, 2007 Pricillia-do you mean lack of compassion from others or they lack compassion? Just a situation that seems hopeless and there is extra stress lack of understanding from a person of signifigance that could probably make things easier if they chose... eh sorry... I will think it through... thanks
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