FellFromHeven Posted March 10, 2007 Posted March 10, 2007 I really need a male perspective on this. I have been in an EMA for several months - we are both married. I knew exactly to a T what I wanted from an EMA and he seemed to, too. We chatted on the phone and emailed a lot - hours. After a few times being intimate he began to really analyze both of our situations and kind of decided that this was not the right thing to be doing - but continued to see me several times after that. We both freely admit that we were becoming emotionally attatched to each other. So - now it has come down to this - he needs to focus on his marriage and family - would like for me to do the same. He would like to remain friends. I believe he means that - this is not a case of me being a victim or anything - I know how he has felt the entire journey. So I guess the curiousity behind the "let's be friends" mentality is what gets me. Is it a I think I might want to have sex with you again later? Is it a I care about you and do want to maintain a friendship? What goes through a guys mind? We are wired differently... Thanks (please no attacking the cake eater)...
Guest Posted March 10, 2007 Posted March 10, 2007 i think our problem as women is that we try to overanalyze what guys think, when in all actuality, they are really not that complicated. we are the ones that use more hints. i think he really just wants to work on his marriage and either just be friends or maybe have you there for sex, but that is it! we as women usually know the answer we just kind of go on the "what if" aspect. but then after so many "what if"'s that don't work out, then we finally get it.
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