daisy23 Posted March 10, 2007 Posted March 10, 2007 Hello. I really need some help with a complicated matter. I am from Canada. This is my situation: I dated a married man named, B, for 3 years. We bought a boat (financed) and 2 other cars which I paid for (free and clear) and leased a car. I lived at his home for 3 months before we broke up. He "worked for me" during some of the 3 years, taking 50% of my business's income. He actually did no work, just mooched and lived off me. We broke up. He wanted to continue working together, I said no. Gave him 3 months to find a different job. He wanted more money, started threatening me and demanding it. He wants 9 months "severance" (we have never had a actual contract, he was never an employee). I refused. He then refused to give me my cars, my modeling clothing (HUGE expensive wardrobe), photography equiptment, my TV/computer, my filing cabinet etc. The amount of money this is all worth is over 100 thousand dollars. The only thing I have is the LEASED mercedes. He does not pay towards the boat that is in his posession. It is currently bouncing out of my bank account because I refuse to pay for something I do not posess! I am UNABLE to file tax because he has my filing cabinet. I am a 23 year old, he is 35. He is nothing more than a sick predator. He met me when I was 17!!!!!!!!!!!! He threatened me and so i changed my phone numbers. I feel scared for my safety and cannot talk to him. I feel this sitation is impossible. i am advised by police to get a restraining order. but how on earth do i get my things back with a restraining order? The police have been extremely unhelpful, saying they would put through to the court for an arrest warrent on extortion charges months and months ago. I call and their "still waiting". To get my stuff they said i need a lawyer. Every lawyer i talk to is slow and seems impossible... I have been trying to work with one for MONTHS, and just today i find out they have done absolutely nothing. I broke up with B in JULY of 2006. I am so upset and anxious this is really impairing my life. I feel afraid for my safety stressed out and just very upset. I need to get this dealt with so much!!!!!! If you have advice for me with this PLEASE let me know.
Poboy Posted March 10, 2007 Posted March 10, 2007 you need to find a good lawyer who will get the job done , period ... ask around friends / family if anyone has a good experience with one whom they can recommend. maybe you are not paying enough for the right one or just bad luck till now.
alphamale Posted March 10, 2007 Posted March 10, 2007 If you have advice for me with this PLEASE let me know. sorry but i don't think you're going to find the answer to this problem on an internet relatioinship forum. you need advice from the police and a lawyer.
stockmos Posted March 10, 2007 Posted March 10, 2007 I agree with both previous posters. I cannot advise you as I have no knowledge of the legal aspects of the situation. You really need to find a good lawyer. The police are probably "unhelpful" because they have to see that some crime has been committed before they go and do something. They can't go round and demand your stuff on your say-so. However, you do say he threatend you - it'd be great if you could get a verbal threat recorded on tape or witnessed.
SoleMate Posted March 10, 2007 Posted March 10, 2007 Yes, you need a lawyer. Keep looking until you find a good, action-oriented, well-recommended one. Even thought the law IS slow, still, if you start with a lawyer now, you will eventually get somewhere. The path you're on now will not get you anywhere except frustrated. Meanwhile, is your stuff getting lost, sold, stolen, ruined or discarded????
Enema Posted March 10, 2007 Posted March 10, 2007 Agree with the above, it sucks but you'll have to keep trying until you get a decent lawyer. btw, you need a new boyfriend?
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