brokenangel22 Posted March 10, 2007 Posted March 10, 2007 Well to begin,this is the last thing i'd ever think would happen to me..ive been in a relationship with someone for over a year..thinsg with us have been wonderful..yet it seesm as if its not just about us..to start from the beginning..i am 37 years old and a very proud single mom of two..i met my sweetheart online of all places yet we hit it off wonderfully..thing is..his family hates me..he is almost 28..so first reason they dont like me is of course the age difference between us...second reason is the fact that i have 2 children..third is because i am divorced..and the list goes on and on..his mother will stop at nothing to split us up..shes forever jumping on him about me..telling him to break up with me..to find someone better and so on and so on..his father who i thought liked me is now singing the same tune..find someone else..someone younger someone you will have your own kids with..like i wouldnt be able to have another child if we wanted?? and even his sister "i would ask him to come over but i dont want HER with him" his aunt who met me for less than a second and a half at christmas saying oh i didnt trust her i had to watch my purse!! im sick of crying and looking for answers..he tells me to just blow it off...i see the stress getting to him more and more..and im waiting for the boot to drop..im scared because i dont know how much more he can take before he gives in and just walks away from me and him not because of issues with us but because of his family...he gets upset with me for needing to talk about it..he doesnt understand this is hurting me...what can i do??
Island Girl Posted March 10, 2007 Posted March 10, 2007 im sick of crying and looking for answers..he tells me to just blow it off...i see the stress getting to him more and more..and im waiting for the boot to drop..im scared because i dont know how much more he can take before he gives in and just walks away from me and him not because of issues with us but because of his family...he gets upset with me for needing to talk about it..he doesnt understand this is hurting me...what can i do?? It may hurt your feelings but oh well. Seriously - if the two of you are going to be together (committed) then you will cleave to each other. And from what I can tell - at that point - as it stands now - he will probably tell them either you accept her or you will not be part of our (MY) lives. If you don't stop the crying and constant discussion you won't have a future. It is going to be your reaction to this that tears you guys apart. He can stand up to his family when you keep giving him reason to. But being a whiny crying mess is just making him unhappy when he is with you. So he'll be getting crap from his family and dealing with emotional crap from you and in the end he'll just say the hell with it. You aren't going to be liked by everyone. Haven't you learned this lesson by now? Some people will find reasons to dislike you. If they do - it's their problem not yours. His family's opinion should not mean so much to you. It is HIS opinion that counts. Don't get so wrapped up in them that you sabotage the relationship - that is the way you are headed. You are putting him in a position where he feels pulled into two different directions and all of it (on both sides) sucks. If they are going to make him miserable - it is up to you to give him a place of refuge. Give him the gift of happiness when the two of you are together.
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